Do you ever wish you had more time in your day? Does your energy plummet mid afternoon most days? Do you feel overwhelmed most weeks? Is every month a struggle financially? Do you go to bed promising yourself you will be a better mom tomorrow?
Hacks for Every Home for Moms & Kids
Do you have kids? Are they older out of the house, teenagers or still little ? My kids just turned 4 and 7 and they are incredible. I am sure every mom says that about their kids. Don’t get me wrong they still can be mean, hurtful, rude, and annoying but for the most part my days with them are joyous. I am told that I need to enjoy this time in their lives and every time I hear that I am grateful…. I mean really grateful that I get to spend quality time with them everyday.
I am going to be honest here. Two years ago I was more in love with my business then my kids. I thought, dreamed about and spent more physical and emotional time with my business then my kids. Even when I was with them my mind was on something or someone else in my business. But thank you GOD I had a Wake up Call and this past summer God called me out to do the Hard Things which included being a Fully Present Momma. So I followed directions cut my work hours, let go of our 30 hours a week babysitter/home-helper, and WOW it has been some of the most rewarding times of my life even with the struggles and weekly tears.
I love love love my kids on a much deeper level than before. I am growing to understand better, and as my mother in law says they are really flourishing with all my Mommy attention, love, discipline, and direction. At the same time I am also recognizing my need to protect these little budding flowers.
Protecting their Souls
Recently I stayed in a big city on the 10th floor of a large hotel near the airport. It was a nice hotel but one thing really bugged me. As I would get off the elevator this big window overlooked the city and their strategically placed for me to see was a huge sign with beautiful teenage looking woman with lots of makeup on. It was an ad for a Gentlemen’s Club.
Really? Really there it was bold as day in this beautiful hotel so close to the airport with hundreds of travelers everyday I know it was strategically placed there. I got a little upset in my spirit. Then I was in another part of the hotel coming up the stairs and their was another add…
Really? Talk about target marketing. But these signs and establishments are in every city and using sex to sell has been with us for a long long time.
When I was teenager I had this great opportunity to attend something called Teen Institute a retreat for high schoolers in Peer Leading roles. One particular presentation has stuck with me for 20 plus years. The presentation WOKE UP a bunch of us teenagers to how advertising all around us was using SEX to sell in some way. HOLY CRAP!!! I couldn’t believe it. WOW.. It’s not just Gentleman’s clubs it’s everything from food and drugs to cars and fragrance. It is so prevalent most of us are immune to it. Don’t take my experiences or opinions as fact do your own research.
Every parent wants to protect their children from the perils of pornography but do we understand where it really begins? I think it actually begins in their early life with simple billboards, TV shows, revealing magazines in the grocery store line, and catalogs in our home. I think we as adults have become so desensitized to most things SEXUAL all around us we don’t pay attention to these little gateway sexual teasers all around us. And I do believe that is a strategy too. More than a decade ago Forbes magazine said the Porn industry was worth 3.9 BILLION dollars between all the different forms of it. HOLY COW… There has to be a lot of strategy and unseen marketing to get that kind of Cash out of our Pockets… And let’s not be judgmental of others and think it doesn’t effect your family because I guarantee someone around you is being affected, tested, or tormented.
So what is my point here? My point is we have sons and daughters who we want to succeed in life. We don’t want to see them fall into this type of addiction and yes porn is an addiction. In Brain studies it is more addictive than cocaine. We want happy healthy marriages and lives for them. So we need to wake up to the pitfalls around us that we are asleep to.
Let’s WAKE UP
I recently heard this radio program called the Face of Porn may surprise you.
It was eye opening. I suggest you listen too if you have kids young or old. Are you like me? Super serious about protecting your children, grandchildren and future generations. Even if that means extra work for you. If that is you I suggest getting the Grooming the Next Generation for Success Home Study Program and Book
For more than a decade I have watched families raise their children using the programs proven strategies to protect and groom these future generations. People like Brad and Amanda Young who not only healed their dysfunctional marriage but groomed 4 and 6 year old girls into amazing talented teenagers today. I just hope I can do the same now that I have the tools.
Let’s stand up against the evil around us. Let’s be a LIGHT so Bright that Darkness can’t penetrate. Let’s get the skills to Shine Bright, Protect, and Groom our Children for success. Don’t wait. Do it now.
God Bless you and your Family. I will be praying and warring for your you all on this subject. I love you and want to see you succeed.
We are still loving Fit Couple Cooks. These Zucchini Egg Pancakes were so good and great to travel with. You can eat them cold or warm. Here is the Recipe:
Dear my son Joshua Truman Carter,
Today you turn 5 years old and I want to write you a special note of memory about your past year so we never lose it. I am not one for scrapbooks but I can write so this is what I will do.
You have grown into a little man this past year. At least 5 inches, you tower over others your same age and it appears you will be tall like your Uncle Starr, but not if you don’t start eating more vegetables.
You are still as loving as you were when you were a baby and toddler. You love to snuggle in the morning, you still like to be carried like Sissy at 40 pounds but our backs only allow that once in a while. You grow more and more handsome everyday.
We have always known you were brilliant but that you like to do things in your own timing. Right after your 4th birthday you started talking all the time, sentences and then more. You had not been much of a talker prior to that and now you communicate very well telling us what you want, your opinions, and concerns.
You still like peace and quiet but your Sissy doesn’t give you a lot of that always loving on you calling you JoshJosh. You love her very much and sometimes call her KAKA as her pet name.
After your 4th birthday you finally started “Pooping on the Potty” THANK YOU GOD. You definitely made us patiently wait for that, but the Potty Chart along with Nana’s promise if you started pooping on the Potty we would go to see Mickey Mouse seemed to motivate you to new levels of Full Potty Training. I still have the voicemail of you excitedly telling me, “I Poopied on the Potty” when I was away. We and others who loved us prayed for your Potty Training and it worked. THANK YOU GOD.
June, July and August you spent your first summer in the Florida heat. We had a little blow up pool for you and you loved playing in it and going to the park with water spouts everywhere. You get so sad when we go to the park and there are no kids there, you love playing with friends.
This is a picture of a special friend of yours Arianna. Arianna spent 10 months away from her mommy and daddy because they were deployed. And now she will go to live in Japan and you may never see her again so I thought I would post this picture of her for you. So you can always remember and pray for her.
You got to play with your cousins more this year. You had a lot of fun with Will and you two love to wrestle. Although it is nerve racking to watch, I am understanding the importance of letting you be “Wild at Heart” and not suppressing your boy or manhood.
We got to go on our first official family vacation to Orlando this year and it was so much fun! We stayed at a time share with a pool right outside our window and a park. We went to our first costume party and you had a blast dancing and having fun. You are such a sweet and loving boy. Nana came and spent the day at Disney World with us. You got to see Mickey Mouse but I think your favorites were the Epcot Aquarium and the Epcot laser lights show and fireworks.
We all loved seeing your face light up throughout the day. What fun! After Disney World your imagination took off. You love to play act stories and have fun.
Speaking of play, your favorite things to do in your playroom this year was to cook food for us. You would set these elaborate tables of food up for us and it was so neat to see you cook. Your dad and I think you may have culinary arts in your future. As you almost turn 5 years old your play is changing some and cars and different obstacles.
In February we went to see Nana and the manatees. You loved that special day even though it was so simple and no money spent. You still Thank God almost every night for the manatees, Nana, swimming and Grandma and Grandpa. I am learning and am thankful that simple things make you happy. Going for walks, riding the cart with MawMaw, picking up sticks with dad. Moving to Florida and living in the country has been really great for your development.
Grandpa Starr gave you your first Dr. Seuss books this year and you loved them. We read them just a couple of times and now you can almost read them by yourself. You have an extremely good memory like your daddy and we both suspect your intelligence is quite high. Many nights you fall asleep with your books.
We made the decision that our family is going to home school and we picked Sonlight books to start your path. You don’t like to sit very long but a good book can keep you engaged well. I decided based on Grandpa’s Starr’s advice from 30 plus years teaching boys, my research and mom intuition to start your schooling a little bit later. Make it fun, not to long and not too structured at first. I want you to fall in love with learning and so far it’s been great.
It’s hard to do things differently then everyone else. It’s hard to see other kids already writing and reading but then I remember that God’s calling on our lives and our children is to be set apart. You are set apart Joshua don’t forget you are the firstborn. Your sister follows you, friends will follow you and some day many people will follow your example. It will be hard to be different then the crowds but you are and will be a GREAT MAN. Here is a picture of you and daddy when you were 2 years old.
After Thanksgiving your daddy and mommy got pretty sick and your baby brother Gabriel Daniel went back to heaven. You have 2 brothers and 2 sisters in heaven now Rachel, Jesse, Lauren Elise, and Gabriel. Gabriel’s passing was the hardest on all of us and you showed your sadness through acting out some and breaking out in an eczema on your face and nose. We also realize foods affect you and giving you Omega’s, NingXia Red and a protein shake daily seems to make a world of difference in your behavior.
This past fall your daddy made a very brave and important decision for our family. He decided that he needed to be here for us and for you, much more than he had been. He made the hard decision to leave cooperate America. It was very difficult for him but you are a main reason he did.
God has called him to groom you into an amazing man. To be very active in your life, to guide you and direct you toward Jesus. God had to take your daddy to place where he could understand that to be a good provider for this family he doesn’t have to kill himself to do it working late hours and sacrificing his health. There is so much more peace in our home. You are daddy’s favorite alarm clock. You waking him up in the morning saying okay daddy let’s pray. He loves spending the morning breakfast time with you and Sissy, taking you to gymnastics twice a week, and having you help in the yard.
We hope to raise you to have a spirit of an entrepreneur but always put God first and then your spouse and family. With those priorities your life will have great meaning and purpose. Because of daddy’s obedience to God he was blessed to replace his previous cooperate America income where he worked 60-80 hours. In 3 months our Home Business grew and replaced his income. Now daddy works only 30-40 hours a week and has lots more time to spend with you and us.
Joshua I don’t know what this next year will bring you. My hope and prayers for you are that God will give your Dad and I grace and knowledge in teaching and grooming you. That you will grow stronger in your understanding and love for Jesus and grow joy in your heart. That you will be kind, helpful, encouraging, and blessing to others. That we all can grow in our discipline for learning and better health.
And most of all Numbers 6 :24-26. Hebrews 13:16 and Exodus 20:12.
We love you Joshua Truman Carter. Happy 5th Birthday!
“If you want kids to be less violent, stop giving them this,” said the headline on Twitter. To find out more, I clicked on the link and found an article titled “Soda drinking tied to violent behavior in kids” by the Daily News.
The news said that children consuming four or more servings of soda per day are likely to display bad behavior. Studies show that these kids may have withdrawal and attention problems, destroy other people’s belongings and get into fights and physical attacks.
Here are six more problems related to drinking soda and sugar drinks:
A 20 oz. Mountain Dew contains 77g. of sugar and a 7 Eleven 64 oz. Double Gulp Coke contains 186g of sugar. Dr. Mercola has an article on What Happens to Your Body Within an Hour of Drinking a Coke.
He said within the first 10 minutes, you get 10 teaspoons of sugar in your system, within 20 minutes your blood sugar spikes and your liver responds and turns the sugar overload into fat. By 40 minutes, your blood pressure rises and your liver dumps more sugar into your bloodstream. After an hour you’ll start to have a sugar crash. (Read more here.)
Additives and artificial color
A question, “Do you use additives in Coca-Cola?” was posted on Coca Cola Britain’s site. The answer was “We do use additives in some of our drinks, including Coca Cola.”
What are the additives found in your soda drink and why are they harmful? The Consumer Report said caramel color is added to many soft drinks to turn them brown and some of these contain carcinogenic chemical called 4-methylimidazole (4-MeI). They tested the 12-ounce samples of Pepsi One and Malta Goya to have 29 micrograms per can or bottle of 4-MeI. They tested on 81 cans and bottles of popular soda brands from five manufacturers.
Read more about 4-MeI on FDA’s website.
Bad for the teeth
PubMed’s report on “Dental erosion and severe tooth decay related to soft drinks: a case report and literature review” said that the acids and sugars in soft drinks have both acidogenic and cariogenic potential. In layman’s term, it will result in potential tooth decay and enamel erosion.
The publication said sugar-free soft drinks have the same erosive potential as sugar-containing soft drinks. So those with artificial sweeteners will pose the same problems.
We may have come to the assumption that any form of liquid will help hydrate our body. Soda and sugar water may give us an immediate quench of thirst but the reality is the sugar and caffeine inside will speed up dehydration.
Dehydration will then lead to tiredness and mood swings.
Increase obesity and diabetes
“If a child drinks just one soda a day, it will lead to 15.6 pounds of weight a year,” said UCSF. These are empty calories loaded with sugar, additives and caffeine. If a child drinks one soda and two glasses of Kool-Aid each day, he or she would have consumed 390 calories a day.
One pound of fat is 3,500 calories. If the child drinks that amount every day, he or she would potentially increase 40 pounds of weight from drinking soda and sugar drink.
Are sugary drinks the major contributor to obesity in America?
To Harvard School of Public Health the answer is YES. The study is poignant and here are some highlights of why sugary drinks including soda are dangerous to our children’s health:
1. The standard size soft drinks before 1950s was 6.5 ounces.
2. By the 1960s 12-ounce cans were introduced.
3. Early 1990s, 20-ounce plastic bottles were normal.
4. 2011 the 1.25-liter (42-ounce) bottle was introduced.
5. In the 1970s, sugary drinks made up about 4% of US daily calorie intake
6. 2001 risen to 9% and by 1999 to 2004 the average was 224 calories (11% of daily calorie intake) per day from sugary drinks.
Kids ages 6 to 11 consume 130 to 209 calories per day by 2008. (Source: Harvard School of Public Health)
It is not surprising when I saw the chart on CDC showing:
Between 1976-1980 and 2007-2008 obesity among children ages 6 to 11 rose from 6.5% to 19.6%.
The Journal of Pediatrics reported on August 16, 2013 “Soft drinks and behavioral problems in young children.” In the study, the journal finds that aggression, attention problems, and withdrawal behavior are all associated with soft drink consumption in young children.
This study assessed about 3,000 5-year-old children from 20 large U.S. cities, and 43% of children consumed at least one serving of soft drinks per day, 4% consumed four or more.
Poor diet, obesity, bad behavior, dental problems, type 2 diabetes and poor health have been linked to sugar drinks and soda.
Are your kids drinking soda or sugar drinks?
What are the alternatives to soda and sugar drinks for your kids as they are heading back to school?
Surprisingly more soda and sugar drinks are being consumed at home than outside. I found a Math Project by an elementary school in Waikele Hawaii. The Math Project showed on average the 464 families consumed four cans of soda per family per day. A total of 1,856 per day, 12,992 per week, 55,680 per month and 668,160 per year.
The average cost per can of soda was 31 cents. The 464 families spent $575.36 per day, $4,027.52 per week, $17,260.80 per month and $207,129.60 per year. That’s almost a quarter of a million dollars on soda for an average size elementary school with 464 families.
That’s just one case study. How about your kids’ school?
What would happen if they drank pure water, added a drop or two of pure 100% therapeutic grade
· Peppermint essential oils to the pure water or
NingXia Red to the water?
I would love to hear your thoughts. Please leave me a comment below.
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