10 Things I Will Miss About My Life in Central New York

1. My Professional Networks

Throughout my career, I have always attended or been a part of professional business networking. But it wasn’t until 2012 when I joined http://www.wboconnection.org/, a Women’s Business Organization that I really saw the value of women business relationships both personally and professionally. I was initially asked to speak in February 2012 but very quickly became friends and professional colleagues with many of these women. They have assisted me through their services, referrals and encouragement and I hope to continue to help them.

This is a picture of Cindy Bell of cindybellphotography.com taking pictures for my WBOC profile in the Syracuse Women’s magazine.

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2. Lake Ontario
Some of my best memories have been spent on the banks of Lake Ontario or on the lake boating, camping at Fair Haven beach, my first Triathlon, boating across the lake to Canada, walking the pier, watching the boats and of course the sunsets. Lake Ontario is said to have the second best sunsets in the US. Oh and I almost forgot I went to college 3 years at SUNY Oswego right on the lake.

This is a picture of the sunset with my friends Vicki Willoughy and her son Harley.

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3. Abbott’s Ice Cream Custard Chocolate Almond
Although I just recently found this ice cream this past summer in 2013, I am in love. I have only had it 2 times but I am seriously considering getting some before I leave… IT’S SOOOOO GOOD!

Here is a great blog about their delicious ice cream and where I took the pic.

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4. The Finger Lakes
Some of the most beautiful areas of the state with more than 11 lakes, some small and some big. I went to summer camp on Skaneateles Lake, I lived 2 years on Keuka lake, and my dad’s home is right on Oneida Lake.

Here is a picture of Owasco Lake.

Owasco Lake

5. My House & Neighbors
My little Wilbur Street home is the first that I have ever owned. Its old green carpets and 1980 wallpaper might make you cringe but it was ours and it was comfortable, beautiful and a blessing to us for 5 years. We had our second child in this home and will never forget this wonderful home and our great neighbors.

6. My Local Support Team
I am very blessed to have a group of amazing helpers, prayer warriors, mentors and staff here in Central New York. They are incredible people, women, mothers, leaders and organizers. They are eager to serve, willing to grow and learn and loyal. Thankfully many of them can continue to serve us virtually.

This is a picture of my Happiness Engineer and Part Time Sitter, Debbie Twomey of www.debbietwomey.com, she has taught me a great deal about kids and helped us grow these past 3 years. Her title is Happiness Engineer because she helps me be happier by caring for and serving our clients and us on a personal and professional level.

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This is a picture is of my Aunt Shirley. She helps me by blessing us with a meal every week. Her cooking is amazing and the stress of not having to cook at least 1-2 nights a week is so helpful for this working momma. She is a true caregiver and I will miss her greatly.

Aunt Shirley

This is a picture of Christie from Christie Cares. Christie too has the gift to serve and has listened to my encouragement, guidance and even correction to develop a beautiful career in serving others. I know she will flourish in her life.

And here are just a few more of my great helpers that have supported me and played a roll in changing many lives.

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7. The Weather (some of it)  
I love the brisk air of fall, after being in the cold winter I love the warm feeling of your car solar heated by the sun in the winter, the rebirth of spring and the beauty of summer. I won’t miss the Lake Effect.

Here are the colors from my house’s back window.

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Here is that same view during winter.

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8. Niagara Falls
My husband and I love heading over to the Canadian side of the Falls for weekend getaways. It’s beautiful and majestic and there’s lots to do and see.

Pictures don’t do it justice. You’ve got to go yourself and go on the Maid of the Mist or the underground elevator. It’s really amazing.

9. Living Next to my Grandparents
Since 2001 I have lived right next to or one mile from my grandparents. They live there from April- November and then are in Florida for the winter months. Italian dinners, good conversation and wisdom are just part of how they have blessed us, but these past few years I have got to watch how their great grandchildren Joshie and Sarah have blessed them. How cool to have got to be active in your great grandchildren’s lives,

Here is a pic of my grandmother Vita “Vitamin” we call her because she has such great energy taking care of Sarah Grace.

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10. My Friends  
Through the 14 years I have worked my business with Young Living Essential Oils, I have been blessed to build a whole group of friendships. Some I have just known a few years and others more than a decade but my friendships grow stronger every year. Visiting my girlfriend Cory recently, I am reminded that even though I may not speak to some of my friends for months we can pick up just like we never were away.

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So now you have seen some of my life here in Central New York. Next step I will be sharing with you are the things I love from the south.

God Bless and remember to appreciate where you are at in this season of your life. Look for the good because it is there.

Mary Starr Carter
the Total Wellness Doc and Mom

 

Disclaimer: This information is not meant to diagnose, prescribe, treat or cure any illness or disease. It’s strictly for informational, educational, or entertainment purposes ONLY. The products I talk about are not meant to diagnose, prescribe, treat or cure any illness or disease. Any information I give you about them is for informational or entertainment purposes only. They have not been evaluated or approved by the FDA. Please seek the qualified health professional of your choice when making health decisions for yourself, your family and your pets.

Where’s Heidi: One Sister’s Journey Lisa M Buske Voice of the Missing

I didn’t think I would make it through the interview without crying. Lisa M Buske is a personal friend that I haven’t seen in 6 years. 6 years ago she was studying to be a writer and working extremely hard. Today her first book is flying off the shelves. TV, radio, and audiences all over NY and throughout the US are requesting to hear One Sister’s Journey Lisa M Buske the voice of America’s missing. Her sister and my high school friend Heidi Allen went missing on April 3, 1994. She is still missing today.

If you have lost a loved one, or know someone who is grieving a loss I encourage you to have them watch this video. Lisa is helping all of us heal.

God bless,

Dr. Mary Starr Carter
the Total Wellness Doc and Mom

Disclaimer: This information is not meant to diagnose, prescribe, treat or cure any illness or disease. It’s strictly for informational, educational, or entertainment purposes ONLY. The products I talk about are not meant to diagnose, prescribe, treat or cure any illness or disease. Any information I give you about them is for informational or entertainment purposes only. They have not been evaluated or approved by the FDA. Please seek the qualified health professional of your choice when making health decisions for yourself, your family and your pets.

The Miracle of Sarah Grace

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I just wanted to take a minute to thank you personally for all your prayers and positive thoughts throughout my pregnancy and birth. After two miscarriages sometimes your heart and mind become a little hardened or fearful, but I didn’t have any of that (almost) after knowing this little miracle was still with us back in August. You all have been such an amazing support and upliftment and when I was overdue your words on Facebook gave me strength and encouragement. I appreciate you and am honored you are in my life.

The Miracle of Sarah Grace 

(don’t worry this is not a birth video just me sharing with you about her birth)

Disclaimer: This information is not meant to diagnose, prescribe, treat or cure any illness or disease. It’s strictly for informational, educational, or entertainment purposes ONLY. The products I talk about are not meant to diagnose, prescribe, treat or cure any illness or disease. Any information I give you about them is for informational or entertainment purposes only. They have not been evaluated or approved by the FDA. Please seek the qualified health professional of your choice when making health decisions for yourself, your family and your pets.

Please Welcome Sarah Grace

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Jay and I just wanted to let you know how much we appreciated your prayers and blessings this past month of April. Sarah Grace gracefully came into this world on April 16th at 8:22pm in a wonderful home birth. We know without a doubt that your prayers helped to make this labor experience joyful. I promise to share with you soon about the labor because it was miraculous!

We have been having some feeding challenges and just found out that Sarah has what’s known as a tongue tie. I will be blogging more about this soon too. I have been blessed again to work with some of the top Pediatric specialists who are also Natural Health specialists and can’t wait to share with you about their work.

Here are some pics of our precious little one.

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Jay and Sarah

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Thank you,

Mary Starr, Jay, Joshua and Sarah Grace Carter

 

Disclaimer: This information is not meant to diagnose, prescribe, treat or cure any illness or disease. It’s strictly for informational, educational, or entertainment purposes ONLY. The products I talk about are not meant to diagnose, prescribe, treat or cure any illness or disease. Any information I give you about them is for informational or entertainment purposes only. They have not been evaluated or approved by the FDA. Please seek the qualified health professional of your choice when making health decisions for yourself, your family and your pets.

How To Unchain Your Heart And Transform Negative Emotions Into Strength and Energy

How To Unchain Your Heart

We are continuing with Part II of our two part series on Heart Health Wake-Up Call on emotions, stress and negative thoughts and I’ve appropriately called it how to unchain your heart and transform negative emotions into strength and energy. In order to establish a healthy heart, we’ll have to address our heart’s emotional health.

Do you have any idea that you are wonderfully made and valuable? Maybe you had a great childhood but circumstances, people, or life itself has polluted your mind, body and soul with all the messages that make you feel less than. Before you know it, the many years of coping with life has left you stressed out. Some people are so used to living a stressful life and somehow if their life is not chaotic, they’ll figure out a way to make stress happen.

Constant stress, negative emotions and merely existing will slowly affect our body, mind and soul. Your body will show symptoms of exhaustion and various types of health problems will manifest itself.

Not taking care of yourself may eventually lead to heart disease, stroke, messed up hormonal system, weight problems, sleep problems and a whole lot more diseases. Heart disease kills half a million American women each year. In my years of helping women, emotional health is an issue that we deal with all the time. If you were to seriously reflect on your life’s journey, you will find out that most of your health problems began to emerge when your emotional health was unhealthy.

Negative emotions and stress have destroyed some my client’s health and they live with shame, depression, anxiety, rage and unfulfilled dreams. If you follow the news, hearing about domestic violence, assaults and shootings may bring more fear and stress into your life. With every emotion there is energy behind it. The more negative emotions and stress you feel the more energy you are wasting and literally burning out your healthy system. Let’s learn how to transform that “stinking thinking” into positive energies for a healthy heart and peaceful and happy life.

Take these 21 tried-and-tested keys to help you unchain your heart and transform negative emotions into strength and energy:

1. Recognize that negative emotions and stress will eventually kill you. (really no joke)
2. Take small steps everyday to make changes to improve your lifestyle.
3. Commit to listen to empowering and positive influences via MP3s or on the web daily. (Some of my favorite Elevation Church, Joyce Meyer, TD Jakes)
4. If you connect with people who have been through what you have divorce, death etc., make sure you’re connected with those who have been through and are living a healthy lifestyle now.
5. Invest in taking care of yourself. Really, put money in your budget for your self care. It may involve a gym membership, Zumba classes, a weekly massage, chiropractic care, a personal trainer, pick what makes you feel good.
6. Invest in your health with healthy natural foods.
7. Take time to look good and make yourself presentable. It can lift your spirits.
8. Change your mindset with PJ McClure’s Flip the Switch (Great book and audio and it’s free).
9. Read inspirational books and or watch inspirational movies. Weekly if you have to.
10. Stop watching TV especially the news.
11. Sleep more unless you are over sleeping.  (8-9 hrs. at the most a night)
12. Get moving, get fresh air, walk and enjoy the outdoors.
13. Change your scenery like taking a different route to work, have a picnic lunch or even start a part time job in a positive environment like a local coffee shop.
14. Pray or meditate. Depending on your faith and beliefs, spend a few minutes of quiet time each day and collect your thoughts and begin with an affirmation based on the Bible or inspirational quotes from a book.
15. Connect with healthy like-minded friends on our Facebook Page or over on Twitter. Sign up to get our weekly newsletter and encouragement.
16. Break away from negative people. Believe me, you can do it nicely.
17. Forgive and move forward. You can’t change the past but you can change your future especially with forgiveness.
18. Focus on your journey and live in the moment.
19. Seek professional help with people like Dr. Lavonne Atnip.
20. Listen to relaxing music and music that lifts you up and feeds your heart.
21. Use your favorite essential oils everyday.  Joy oil is the heart healthy essential oil favorite.

Your heart health depends on how you take care of your total wellness. Almost five years ago, I was a stressed out, overworked wife who traveled around the United States building my business while my husband stayed home alone. I had just embraced Christ into my heart and was learning to incorporate Him into my marriage and entire life. You could say the peace that passes all understanding was falling on my life. I thank God for that because I was on my way to a very big problem… emotional and physical heart health.

I looked good from the outside but I was heading for a nervous breakdown. I felt trapped and I did not know how to unchain myself. Ever felt that way? I was out of balance and was not taking care of my emotional and physical health. I sought help and found a wonderful woman, Dr. Lavonne Atnip. She helped me sort through my emotional chaos and today my journey is so much clearer and happier. My heart’s health is more balanced and fulfilled.

Toxic emotions and stress are the causes of many diseases including heart disease. It can lead to irritable bowel syndrome, insomnia, weight gain, weakened immune system, cancer and depression. You cannot zone out or watch TV to lessen these toxic emotions. Be a powerful person under pressure using the above keys and seek out help from professionals who can help unchain your heart.

One such person would be Dr. Lavonne Atnip. You can purchase and download her MP3 here. This MP3 and transcript will be your first step to taking care of your toxic emotions and help you live a more fulfilled life.

You have the keys to achieve total wellness. Don’t wait for the right time for it may never come because it certainly wasn’t the right time when I sought help from Dr. Lavonne.

 

Disclaimer: This information is not meant to diagnose, prescribe, treat or cure any illness or disease. It’s strictly for informational, educational, or entertainment purposes ONLY. The products I talk about are not meant to diagnose, prescribe, treat or cure any illness or disease. Any information I give you about them is for informational or entertainment purposes only. They have not been evaluated or approved by the FDA. Please seek the qualified health professional of your choice when making health decisions for yourself, your family and your pets.

Vital Signs of a Healthy Marriage and Business

I am writing this blog post not as an expert today, but as one who has taken the journey of marriage for ten years and lives to tell about the struggles and successes of my marriage and business. If you are struggling or successful in both your marriage and business, read on. You may find some golden nuggets along the way to have an even better marriage and business.

Jay and I have been married for 10 years and we got to celebrate with a little getaway to Niagara Falls this past weekend.  Our marriage like many has not been easy but with the help of business, personal development and relationship mentors, we like each other more and more and fall deeper in love each day.

As one who has been trained in the medical field, vital signs are important in looking at a patient’s health chart.  Assessing body temperature, acidity, heart rate, blood pressure and cholesterol level can tell a lot about a person’s health.

Likewise, our marriage and business have vital signs that show its state of health. Is it thriving or dying?

Dr. Lavonne Atnip is a psychologist, marriage counselor and Biblical Mentor to me. She and her husband Dr. Jack have helped thousands of people in the last 38 years in pre-marital counseling, marital improvement, divorce recovery, spiritual warfare and Bible Studies. I have benefited immensely from her mentorship. You can find out more about one of my calls with her at the Break Free Teleclass with Dr. Lavonne.

What I’ve learned, I’m going to share with you through the simple fruits of the spirit strategy. The fruits of the spirit are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. While the opposite of these are sexual immorality, impurity and hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions, envy, drunkenness, gluttony ad the like.

Marriage and business are almost the same when you think about ways to make them work. We need consistency, persistency, commitment, respect, dedication, time, nurturing and knowing when to set aside time to getaway from it all just to relax and spend time not working but relaxing. The fruit of the spirit applies to both entities as well.

Here is a closer look at 5 vital signs (I am writing from a perspective of a wife):

Self Control
Proverbs said, better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife. Reference to a nagging wife comes out quite often in the book of Proverbs. Again in another verse it says, better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.

Seems weird that I would put self-control in under nagging. But I learned this the hard way. (and still am learning this) If you find yourself nagging away at home, that could be a warning sign.

What is it that is bothering you? Is it stress, dissatisfaction, hurt, lack of self-love, judgment or unforgiveness?

Some of us wives do have the tendency to mention a certain subject over and over again without much self-control. Self-control is one of the fruits of the spirit.

Selfish Ambition
One profound quote written by Albert Einstein about man and woman:

“Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.”

Are you trying to change your spouse?  Could it be insecurity, immaturity or self-hate that is making us look at them instead of ourselves? “If only you will do this!” Or “if only he would spend more time with me”!  What would happen if we practice kindness, gentleness and acceptance?  Maybe they would want to spend more time with us.

Let’s take a moment to think about this statement by Einstein.

Responsibility
Do we justify, rationalize or deny just getting away from facing the truth? Sometimes blaming and always trying to find a scapegoat may cause tension in a marriage. Facing the truth about our fears, insecurity and lack of acceptance may trigger conflict.

I remember the last tense moment we had.  I said to my husband, “you seem really irritable and short tempered today what’s going on with you?” He laughed and said “ME short tempered?” Then I thought about how short tempered I had been with him the entire morning.

Taking full responsibility of our own actions demand facing the truth and forgiving. LOTS OF IT! Anger may arise due to dissatisfaction or thinking more of our own needs than our spouse. Anger will fuel tension and insecurity and before we know it, we will become highly skilled in hiding our fears and insecurity and taking responsibility of our actions will be the last thing in our minds.

Can you imagine thinking “whatever it takes, I’m going to take full responsibility of my actions and make this thing work!”

Too many people just give up on their marriage or let it go dead.  You know, the type of couples who are more like roommates then husband and wife. The passion and love is gone and the words they use with each other are less than flattering.

Do we dare to be vulnerable and admit our weakness or fears? Only when we take full responsibility of playing our part could we be free to be ourselves and accept our spouse as there are. This requires personal development and increasing our sense of personal love and security. (I am still working on this one.)

Time and Change
It takes time for a plant to bear its fruit and there are seasons involved in planting and harvesting. Marriage goes through seasons too. Season of conceiving babies, raising babies and many more. But whatever season a plant may be in, it never changes the type of fruits it will bear. We can’t make excuses that we are raising kids, or building a business, or have a lot of stress and put our marriage on the back burner.  Make time for each other. Make time to get away.

Two of the best marriages I know include my grandparents and my aunt and uncle.  What has been foundational for both of these couples in every season of life?  A weekly date night and time away with each other.  No matter how exhausted they were, they made time for their marriage.

Our Core
The core of our being and character does not change through time. What might have attracted us to our spouse in the first place is still there. If we take time to evaluate that character that we first fell in love with, we may find appreciation and gratitude in our spouse.

For some it may be their confidence, patience, and commitment, beliefs or interests.  Or he thinks you are beautiful no matter what you look like.  Hold on to something and appreciate that one thing.

There is no perfect marriage or business. Both take commitment, work and belief. Focus on the Family said

Marriage is often about fighting the battle between your ears. Successful couples have learned to resist holding grudges, bringing up the past and remembering that they married an imperfect person – and so did their spouse.

Do you have any special secrets to share about your marriage success or business strategies? Let us know by leaving a comment below.

Disclaimer: This information is not meant to diagnose, prescribe, treat or cure any illness or disease. It’s strictly for informational, educational, or entertainment purposes ONLY. The products I talk about are not meant to diagnose, prescribe, treat or cure any illness or disease. Any information I give you about them is for informational or entertainment purposes only. They have not been evaluated or approved by the FDA. Please seek the qualified health professional of your choice when making health decisions for yourself, your family and your pets.

 

Are You In Prison?

I woke up from a really disturbing dream and was about to go journal it when I heard my inner voice say you need to share it. I had a dream that woke me up sobbing. At first I thought, “Well it's just a dream” but when you look a little deeper maybe it's wasn’t… 



I had a dream that this really mean person who didn't like me and tried to do mean stuff got me arrested and put in jail. This jail was secret and no one knew I was in it, not my husband, not my family, no one really but me. There were other people in the jail even little kids. Some tried to escape but most of the time would end up back in the jail.  



Then in the dream I realized that I could escape but was too scared to do it.  I had gotten comfortable in prison. Sounds weird I know… Then I also realized that the person who put me in jail had changed over time from that mean person to my mom.  But how would I escape?  Then I heard a voice say forgiveness; you need to forgive the people who put you in this prison.  So I started saying and praying “I forgive them” and saw the reflections of the people I needed to forgive.  As I did this I just started weeping and weeping.

Lastly I saw all the ways I had kept myself in bondage and was mad at all the bunny trails I went down just so I wouldn’t have to break out and be free. I heard a voice again say, “Forgiveness, you need to forgive yourself.”

WOW what a dream huh? I woke up sobbing I was so affected by it. But it doesn’t surprise me since this past week I was working with my Mindset coach, PJ McClure, on patterns of self sabotage and where they come from.  I had just had 3 conversations over the weekend with friends and we were talking about how people instill a spirit of fear in kids and if that bondage is not broken, they grow up to be adults with anxiety, worry, and usually stay stuck in situations or jobs that are much less than their true calling.

What does this mean for you?  Well ask yourself what kind of prisons you are in. Are you afraid to do something more with your life? Are you afraid to go back to school, chase that dream of fill in the blank, do what you have always wanted to, or go live in a foreign country? Whatever it is I am here to tell you and pray with you that you don’t have to live in bondage anymore. Get at the roots of your bondage.

 
Now this may seem a little deep and weird but hear me out.  

Here is a Bondage Breaking Formula:

1) Identify the prison you are in. (WARNING you may have many)

2) Recognize what put you in there. Beth Moore in her book “Get Out of the Pit” shares that we can be pushed in a pit (our prison) by other people, we can fall in a pit maybe by circumstances or a few poor choices compiled on top of each other, or we can just jump right in by our own choice.

3) Understand you were not made to live there.  It can be easier and too comfortable to stay prison versus living free. (Sadly I see really talented young people who seem to feel more at home in the system then outside it.) Most people were never raised with life.  

What do I mean by that? I mean that words of encouragement, positive role models, or praise are good but my belief is if we read our Bibles we would read God’s true calling on our lives.  We would read words of life. If we really read, understood and believed the words GOD gave us, we would know how to avoid the prison and how to get out when we are there.  

4) Ask for forgiveness. Forgiveness of your captors (no need to do this in person if you can do it in your heart), forgiveness of yourself, and forgiveness from God.  If you have trouble with the first two, ask God to help you forgive.

I would like to tell you that this is a one time thing but it is not. It will usually take many times because of all the layers of junk. Occasionally, God will give you instant deliverance but in both methods it feels like losing a whole lot of weight. You just start feeling lighter. You feel like this burden is just off of you.  Some lose weight or forgive slowly, some can do it quickly but we all can do it.  

5) Release the spirit of bondage and fear.  Again this might sound weird but my belief or thinking is there are yucky little demonic forces that can get attached to us and speak junk about ourselves right into our minds. It’s kind of like the angel on one shoulder and the devil on another.  These attachments can be heavy, “you’re stupid, you’re as dumb as a box of rocks, you can’t do that you are a girl”.  They definitely want to keep you for being all you were made to be.

So how do you release these bondages? Well again my belief is we pray to bind them and cast them back to the pit of Hell where they belong…. But always use the name of Jesus Christ. Even if you are not a Christian, you will see the power of using the name of Jesus Christ far surpasses anything you can do.

6) Now this exercise is not complete because we finally have to fill that space or void (cover the pit) or we will find ourselves possibly in a worse pit than before. I recommend filling that void and covering that old wound with the power of the Holy Spirit and the Blood of Jesus.  

As Christians, Jesus left us the power of the Holy Spirit that is WAY underused. The Holy Spirit can give us patience, self control and peace, when our lives seem like a mess and out of control.  The Blood of Jesus, your belief that Christ died for our sins and for the people who put us in prison, can cover your wounds and hurt no matter how old. This is a really important step and if you don’t have Christ and the Holy Spirit in your life you really may want to ask him into your life.  Just give Him your heart, your mind, body and soul and you will see HUGE changes in your life.

Lastly I want to share with you one more secret weapon in breaking free of bondage and breaking out of prison. The Bible gives over 188 references to anointing, essential oils, and plant medicinal used to empower, heal, and increase your spiritual connection.  God made these plants and essential oils but why are we not using them today? When you do the entire Prison Breaking free exercise I am going to recommend you anoint the whole process with pure essential oils.   

Specifically, I recommend to start with the oil of Valor, a beautiful blend of Frankincense, Spruce, Blue Tansy and more oils which when inhaled, helps tell your brain to calm, your body to be at peace, and it tells your spirit to be courageous and strong.   

Take 2-4 drops of Valor in your hand and rub your hands together, inhale the oil, apply to your shoulders, heart and feet holding your hands for 10 or more seconds in each area as you relax and feel the oils going in.   

Valor is important to use every morning before you start your day as well as before you start a Bondage Breaking exercise.  

Next is another Bondage Breaking oil called Transformation.  This oil has a whole bunch of single essential oils blended together like Sandalwood and Frankincense.  These oils were used during biblical times and can be just as beneficial today especially when you are using pure oils like in Transformation.  

Take 2 to 4 drops of Transformation in your hand and rub your hands together, inhale the oil, apply to your shoulders, belly, feet and anywhere else you feel you need it. Keep inhaling the oil as you go through the exercise in Steps 1 to 6.  

Finally I would say don’t be afraid.  Give yourself grace because God has given it to you.

I love and appreciate your courage and determination to be the best you can be. If you feel like sharing your breakthroughs, I would love to hear them.  To share publically, comment below but if you would like to privately message me email at info@starrhealth.com. Put in the subject line BREAK FREE.

Remember all of this is for your Total Wellness! God Bless your success,

 Dr. Mary Starr Carter
 Starr Health Ministries

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Do You Give Yourself Grace?

Grace can be defined as a virtue coming from God, a merciful or compassionate nature, an act of kindness, courtesy or clemency, and an exemption. Let’s really think about these definitions…

The other day my girlfriend Chasity called me to share her disappointments in herself. She is a mom of 2 children less than 3 years old and a very big dog. She has a loving and supportive husband with a demanding job that allows him to be at home on the weekends. Chasity has a seasonal job too that currently has her working from 3pm to 11pm on Saturdays and Sundays.

She called to say she was disappointed in herself because she wasn’t losing more weight, she was late to exercise classes and that she wasn’t contributing more money to the family.

As I listened to her I just heard a woman beating herself up and not giving herself grace.

GRACE in the seasons of life

There are definitely seasons in our lives that we may need to give ourselves grace. Seasons when our family will require more attention than when they are older. Seasons after surgery or during an illness when we have to slow down and require less of ourselves. Seasons when we are attempting new things like going back to school after a long time that we will need more GRACE.

Because Chasity was born with some amazing gifts to get done in one day what most of us get done in a week, she still feels that she can accomplish those same things with 2 kids. Maybe she can…but it is important to give ourselves GRACE when we don’t meet our expectations.

GRACE to our bodies

Chasity doesn’t understand why she isn’t losing more weight but she is still nursing her baby. The body needs extra stored body fat when nursing. Although initially the “baby” weight will come off more quick for nursing moms, they will maintain about 10-15 pounds extra naturally.

When I work with obese women, many times they are very discouraged that they have not released any significant weight or that they have gained weight. We must give our bodies GRACE. The keys to releasing weight if you are obese can be found in our Total Wellness Slique Experience Virtual Coaching program. But in a nutshell, we address that women with a high percentage of body fat have a very low metabolism. They will need to spend 1 to 6 months re-training the body’s metabolism through healthy eating and exercise. This is also why many women plateau at 30 pounds or even 50 pounds.

We must give our bodies’ GRACE. This also includes when we start to exercise after a long break in real exercise. Give your body small steps towards physical fitness. This isn’t the Biggest Loser so let’s make sure we slowly build up. 5 minutes the first day, 10 minutes the next, and so on until we can maintain 40 minutes of continuous aerobic activity. The same thing applies when we start to strength train from no weights then light weights then heavier weights. I always recommend working with a professional to get you started exercising the right way.

Be kind with your words

Have you ever been with a friend who is always referring to himself or herself as large, overweight, or stupid? Think about it. Maybe you say those things. It’s true we can, without even thinking, be meaner to ourselves than we would ever think about saying to anyone else. We lack compassion and kindness towards ourselves. And ultimately, self love.

Start today even if you are not happy with yourself. Don’t speak it. Say positive words over yourself. Tell your body it is beautiful even if you don’t think it yet. The “Power of your Tongue” to actually bring things into being is amazing. You have the power to build yourself up or tear yourself down.

Grace to others

My husband is an expert gunsman (if that is a word).  He received awards when in the Navy for his pistol and rifle shooting. As you can guess, he really likes gun shows.  So the other night he was watching this show called Top Shot and I sat down to watch it with him.

It was the season finale and his favorite Southerner contestant Chris Reed was still in the running. We were on our seat with suspense when the arrogant young man, George, does something no one ever expected. He throws the competition so his now friend Chris Reed can compete for the final prize of 100,000 dollars. George gave up his chances at winning because his friend Chris needed the money. Chris had been in an awful motor vehicle accident that nearly took his life. Today with kids at home, he wanted to earn that money for his kids’ education as well as the recognition and achievement of being Top Shot. Chris went on to winning the Top Shot and the $100,000 and the tears rolled down my face. I didn’t expect to see such an example of GRACE on a reality TV show.

Everyday we have the opportunity to be a George and step down so someone else can step up. That is, to be kind and merciful towards others. To forgive someone, ourselves and just let go of the past.

How about you? Will you show yourself and someone else GRACE today?

If you want to share your story of Grace, comment below. 

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The ABCs of Getting Out Of The Rut, Tips and Lessons Learned From Names of Young Living Essential Oils

It’s been over five years since Pam’s husband left her. She started out working a 9-5 job and doing whatever she could to make extra money for herself and her two children.

It had been a struggle, looking at co-workers being promoted and not her. A good friend told her about getting new skills, taking care of her appearance, getting a new haircut and buying new sets of clothes.

Pam told herself over and over again…tomorrow… but tomorrow never came.

She is still struggling to love herself or to get a date. She was only 32 but felt like 49. Looking at her friends from a distance…getting all that they wanted…she felt, she was in a rut and not going anywhere…not living the life she once dreamt.

Why did she not want to change and take on a new way of living? Maybe get a new skill, learn a language, dye her hair and embrace the new?
Is she succumbing to doing the same things over and over again…hoping for something different to happen?

Some of us may relate to Pam’s story and feelings. Hoping for a change. It may never happen because being stuck in the same old ways of doing things and not rising above obstacles and challenges…will not create a different result.

Are you tired of doing the same things over and over again?

Are you expecting something different to happen in your life?

The first month of 2012 is over but we still have 11 more.

It has been a privilege to work with Young Living Essential Oils and many hard working, determined, focused and ambitious mompreneurs who stay at home, work part-time and some full-time.

Along the way, we meet some people like Pam that makes us ponder and evaluate on our own lives and feeling sad at the same time. We are definitely not perfect.

We do know what works…

Here are our ABCs tips and lessons of getting out of the rut and living a life that is different each year…to fulfill our dreams and our mission in life. We derived these lessons from Young Living Essential Oil’s names.

A: Acceptance, Awaken and Abundance  

Though these are names of Young Living Essential Oils, we can draw tips and lessons from them… to get out of the rut and create a different life this year.

Acceptance:

Most of us either have been given or have heard of Serenity Prayer. It says God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.

Some things in life cannot be changed like our height. But there are many that can be changed. Whatever can’t be changed, we must learn to accept.

The great success book called the Bible in James 1:5 said if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.

Question to ask: What can’t I change and what can I change? Write it down and appreciate them.

Awaken:

Some people are just not aware of the need to change and do things differently. We are sleep walking in our daily lives…we sleep walk to work, play and eat. Our potential is not awaken and our dreams may have been tucked away in one corner of our brain because of fears.

In order to live out of the rut, there needs to be an awakening. Recognize there may be a sleep walking lifestyle in us.

Question to ask: Am I a sleepwalking zombie? Do I lead my life daily without directions and a plan?

Abundance:

Marie, a user of Abundance oil shared this upon her return to the United States after living in France for a few years:

I love Young Living Essential Oils. I first learned about using oils for cures when I lived in France and a Doctor treated my neck pain with oils. Upon my return to the U.S., I learned about Young Living and ever since, I have used these oils every day!  

I am especially fond of Abundance, particularly in this time when the news tells us such bad news about lack. When I use the oils, I set my intention, which is easy to do with Abundance. I ask that abundance be provided to me in all areas of my life. When I smell this fabulous oil, I feel abundant and special.

Are we looking at half empty or half full glasses in our lives? There is a great difference how we view life. If we believe there is a lack, we will not attract abundance or fulfillment. Gratitude, purpose and hard work will promote abundance.

Question to ask: How healthy is my mind?

B: Believe, Brainpower

Believe:

Eleanor Roosevelt said the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.  

Even the Little Engine That Could had to remind himself, “I think I can, I think I can” as he climbed up the hill. We read the book when we were younger and believed everything was possible.

Question to ask: What happened to our belief?

Has negative people and circumstances led us to where we are today with unbelief?

Brain Power:

To give our brain a boost would require us to feed it with powerful words, lessons and experiences. Most of us only use less than 10% of our brain and leave 90% in idleness.

Many successful people and those who are going places and achieving their dreams know the importance of reading inspirational books and listening to motivational MP3s. Learn from someone who already succeeded in what you are trying to achieve.

Success breeds success…that is the only way to increase our brainpower!

Reading junk or not reading at all will not feed our brain, thus a powerless brain.

Question to ask: What am I feeding my brain daily?

C: Clarity, Common Sense

Clarity:

To get to our destination while driving, we need to have clarity of where we are going and the road system should not be blocked by traffic or constructions.
If there are roadblocks…we need alternative routes to get to the destination.

Imagine what would happen to your trip if the roads you needed to take were experiencing a heavy rainstorm and visibility was zero. You either get to your destination later or may have to reroute because of no clarity.

Or there is no clear direction to follow…no MapQuest, no proper road signs. Could we arrive at our destination?

Likewise in the journey of life, we need clarity…clarity of goals and purpose. Possibly a detour or alternative route.

Question to ask: Do you know what you want in life? Or are you living somebody else’s life?

Common Sense:

The Common Sense Essential Oil is known to enhance individual’s reasonable and rational decision-making abilities.

To get out of the rut we need to take steps to make it happen…it is common sense…we heard it before, use your common sense.

What happened to our common sense? Dwell in disbelief, lack of motivation, and no urgency and be complacent and settle.

Question to ask: Do you know your enemies? Those that are trying to hold you back and leave you in the rut?

Are you tired of doing the same old and expecting different results? Nothing will change if we don’t take the steps to make a change.

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Dr. Mary Starr Carter is known as the Total Wellness Doc. She has been training individuals about Natural Health Solutions for over 13 years. She is trained as a Chiropractor and has studied under the world’s foremost leaders in natural medicine. She is a mother and a wife and has created a balanced and total wellness life for herself and thousands of her clients using her simple wholistic approach to health and wellness. Her coaching, classes and ebooks help clients with Fibromyalgia, Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes, Weight problems, Thyroid and Chronic pain find resources and solutions to better health.

We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.

Lessons and Blessings of Another Miscarriage

We all have highs and lows in our life.  It is inevitable and it is life.  The lows of life are sad, tragic, depressing, and awful, right?  What if the lows of your life were actually blessings in disguise or experiences to help you grow?

My 2011 Christmas Holiday was spent in one of those blessings and lessons. On December 25th 2011 while everyone else was celebrating Christmas, I was learning that I needed immediate surgery.

The Highs
It all started with our 5-day vacation to Austin, Texas.  I was 12 weeks pregnant and besides a lot of fatigue, nothing was abnormal. It was an awesome vacation and Saturday December 17th was one of the top 12 days of my life.  Starting with a morning walk to a delicious Mexican Diner, followed by a trip to Zilker Park and a ride on the Zilker train, then off to the Austin Nature Center.  Austin was beautiful, but it was the family time that made it so special.

Then that afternoon my husband and I set out on a 90 minute journey in the Hill Country of Texas where we saw hundreds of little deer and spent quality time talking.  We arrived at the beautiful Meyer Bed and Breakfast, got ready and headed to one of the most special and beautiful weddings I had ever been too.  A day of family, fun, friends, and romance who could ask for more?

The Lows
The next morning, I had breakfast with some of my favorite people including my spiritual mentors Dr. Jack and Lavonne Atnip. We laughed and joked and shared stories of how much our lives have been blessed by this couple.  But somewhere, something inside of me wasn’t feeling right.  I was really tired and thought maybe I just ate too much cake.  As I kissed Dr. Lavonne goodbye she said, “you take care of yourself and get some rest.”  A normal, typical thing that someone would say to a pregnant woman, but something inside of me just didn’t feel right.

On the drive back to Austin, this once beautiful terrain made me nauseous and irritable.  We arrived home and I laid down to rest for a while, but I just couldn’t get comfortable.  My back ached, my legs felt weird, and then all of sudden I felt something coming out of me.  I rushed to the bathroom to see bright red blood.   OH NO not again.  Am I having a miscarriage?

My first trip to the Emergency since a car accident in 1997, confirmed that the baby inside of me had no fetal heartbeat and was only the size of a 6-week fetus even though now I was about 13 weeks pregnant. They said you are having a miscarriage. Then they sent me home to mis-carry my baby.

My husband and I were heart broken as we had gone through this in June of 2011 as well.  Our baby Rachel would have been born January 2012 and now our baby Jesse who would have been born June 30th 2012 was going to heaven too.

But as I said before, I trusted God completely and knew He had His reasons. So although sad, I started to see the blessings in it.

The Blessings

God had given me one of the most amazing days of my life.

He gave our family time to be “on vacation” for 3 weeks.

He ordained 2 weeks with my aunt and uncle who cared and nurtured me, my husband and our 22 month old son Joshua in a wonderful and loving way.

God blessed us with 3 weeks of sun and springtime weather.

I got to go heal for a week at Jones Health Essentials in Florida where I got to spend quality time with our in-laws, nieces and nephews.

We had excellent health insurance for the first time in 15 years.

We were 5 minutes away from one of the best hospitals I had ever been to.

I spent several days in the bathroom bleeding and what I thought was miscarrying my baby.  Me, being a strong willed and natural Doctor, I sometimes think I know everything.  I thought I was fine… but I wasn’t. It’s not that I didn’t listen to my body which I am known to do… but I didn’t follow the doctor’s directions…  right away…  and had I waited much longer, I might have lost my life.

The Lessons and more Blessings:

My Ego for natural medicine was so big, I would brag all the time that I haven’t needed to take any drug or even an aspirin in 11 years.  A part of me thought “I will never need medical care”, “I will never need drugs.”  “essential oils can take care of everything”.

Well I sure learned my lesson.

A second emergency room visit on Christmas day showed that I would need immediate surgery or I would risk never having babies again or worse.

I would need anesthesia for this surgery and the thought of surgery and drugs scared me a lot at first.  I was very frightened and then like a blanket of snow, this PEACE fell over me like you can’t imagine.  (more on that in another blog)

 The Blessings and Lessons of St. David’s South Austin Medical Center  

For more than 13 years I have interned, taught and/or assisted clients at more than 17 hospitals all over the United States, including top ranked hospitals like Stanford.  Out of 17 hospitals, I have never seen the excellent care and outstanding service that St. David’s South Austin Medical Center had.  In all areas, they were excellent from registration to wheeling you out the door.

Have you ever been to an ER that was beautiful and clean, quick, comfortable, and had courteous staff?   St. David’s did.

But it was my experience with the Doctors and Nurses who blessed me the most.

Dr. Glen, the ER doc, was compassionate and kind.

Joyce, my hospital room nurse was attentive, listened, and even let me put some essential oils on to relax.

Nancy, my OR nurse, talked with me while I had a 20 minute wait before being wheeled into surgery.

I was blessed with one of the best anesthesiologist in the state who listened to me and respected my wishes.

But the most outstanding doctor I have had the privilege to work with was Dr. Hemkumar, a female OBGYN who performed the surgery.  She spent time talking with us, explaining the procedure, answering our questions.  She had been a doctor in India delivering hundreds of babies and then went back to school here in the US for medicine again.  She had 2 of her own children and really understood motherhood. She was compassionate, personable and really connected with her patients.  I was blessed by her skill and person and St. David’s is highly blessed to have her on staff.

The Lesson I Learned Through the Blessing of St David’s Hospital is that we all are needed.  Nature’s medicine as well as traditional medical intervention.  Had I not had my medical intervention on December 25th 2011 and the excellent care of St. David’s Hospital, I may not be here to talk to you now.

After spending a day and a half at St. David’s hospital, I checked out okay to go back to my aunt’s to rest and heal.  But before we left, a wonderful volunteer named Francesca came to wheel me downstairs.  She was an elderly woman who had lost her husband and daughter, yet was one of the most pleasant person you have ever met.  I realized then that life would be filled with highs and lows. But even with hurting hearts, we can choose happy.

Dr. Mary Starr Carter is known as the Total Wellness Doc. She has been training individuals about Natural Health Solutions for over 13 years. She is trained as a Chiropractor and has studied under the world’s foremost leaders in natural medicine. She is a mother and a wife and has created a balanced and total wellness life for herself and thousands of her clients using her simple wholistic approach to health and wellness. Her coaching, classes and ebooks help clients with Fibromyalgia, Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes, Weight problems, Thyroid and Chronic pain find resources and solutions to better health.

We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.

Your Health As a Kid Has a Lot to Do With Your Health Now


Sarah didn’t know why her 8 week old baby would cry for hours after eating. He wouldn’t stop until he had a bowel movement. They thought it was colic but something else was going on that no one explained to them …….

Samuel was an emergency C-section baby. He had a mysterious fever that left him in the hospital for almost 2 weeks and on a series of antibiotics. After coming home he cried day and night and took only short cat naps. Sarah and her husband wanted to pull their hair out they were so miserably tired. They did everything but nothing worked. …… until they tried probiotics. Little Samuel began sleeping through the night and was not miserable every time he ate. Why did Samuel need probiotics and what are they?

Probiotics are actually live micro-organisms that help the gut get healthy. Normally a healthy body has lbs of micro-organisms that make up the gut flora. A healthy gut flora will help break down and ferment foods, produce vitamins that our body’s can use, and contribute a huge part to our immune system.

A baby builds it’s gut flora starting at birth. If a baby has a vaginal birth then his or her’s gut flora can be fully developed in 6 months. When a mom breast feeds he also gets more good bacteria to build up the gut flora. When a women has a C-section their baby misses out on getting a dose of momma’s good bacteria like acidophilus and it will take up to 2 years to build the gut flora. There is some evidence to suggest that C-section babies have more incidence of colds, ear infections and allergies. And of course if a baby get’s a cold or ear infection most doctors will prescribe antibiotics which actually destroys most of the good gut flora and leads for an overgrowth of bad gut flora.

In Samuel’s case he not only had a C-section birth and very little breast feeding he also had antibiotics which destroyed any bacteria that was starting to colonize in the colon. This is why he was having such digestive upset and crying all the time.

Unfortunately most kids don’t find this simple solution and end up repeating the cycle of sickness, allergies, antibiotics and other drugs from infant into their teens and into adult hood. By the time we get to our teens or adult age that’s when the bigger problems come in. Because our poor gut has taken such a beating we end up with Digestive Challenges like Constipation, Yeast overgrowth, Diverticulitis, Ulcerative colitis , Crohn’s Disease or just such a sensitive stomach and gut that every time you get stressed we are running into the bathroom. Seriously I know many adults who are trapped by their GUT! They don’t dare go anywhere because they get stressed and diarrhea just thinking about it.

This is no way to live. You can stop this cycle now with your little ones or even if you are an adult.
Studies show that children and adults that supplement with a good Probiotics have less sick days than those who don’t. Yogurts are not enough to get back on track only Kefir plain (you will find in your dairy section) can help boost your good flora. Probiotic supplements and fermented foods like sauerkraut can also boost your good gut flora.

A baby like Samuel needed relief quickly. So in these cases an infant probiotic purchased at a Health Food Store was beneficial. My son was getting very little breast milk per day for the first 5 months of his life and was mostly formula fed. When he started getting constipated I would put a little of Young Living’s Life 5 probiotic into his formula. Not even a pinch of the powder from an open capsule would get his gut replenished and moving properly again.

Already this week alone I have heard 2 stories of mommy’s sharing how Probiotics were a “life saver” for their little ones health and happiness. No one wants to hear babies cry in pain from digestive upset. It can be heart wrenching.

Think about your adult children. Do they struggle with digestive complaints ? Maybe something as simple as a Probiotic may help them ? Send them to this Article and see what they think.

We look forward to hearing your stories. Please leave your comments below.

Dr. Mary Starr Carter is known as the Total Wellness Doc. She has been training individuals about Natural Health Solutions for over 13 years. She is trained as a Chiropractor and has studied under the world’s foremost leaders in natural medicine. She is a mother and a wife and has created a balanced and total wellness life for herself and thousands of her clients using her simple wholistic approach to health and wellness. Her coaching, classes and ebooks help clients with Fibromyalgia, Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes, Weight problems, Thyroid and Chronic pain find resources and solutions to better health.

We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.

The Secret Weapon to Destroy Worry

The Secret Weapon to Destroy WORRY  
By Dr. Mary Starr Carter

I was raised by worry wart parents so of course I became a worry wart person.  Worry would keep me up at night. It would have me running all out most days.   It would keep me from ever having peace. Worry led me to a few mini meltdowns and even what I would call a nervous breakdown.  But most of all worry stole many years of my life. 

What did I worry about?  Like most people money, debt, time, the safety of my loved ones, the outcome of a test, my own abilities and the list goes on. 

The word worry means strangle.  S-T-R-A-N-G-L-E  Strangle or STRONGHOLD well worry definitely was strangling me.  It was robbing me of my joy and peace and although I didn't know it at the time it was robbing the people in my life and the people I wouldn't meet because of this STRONGHOLD.    

When did my WORRY let go of it's stronghold. It started in Fall of 2007 when I opened up my heart to God and started to let Him in.  At first I noticed I was sleeping sounder at night.  Nothing had changed in my exterior life I still had zero dollars in my bank account and a quarter of a million dollars in debt but yet I was sleeping sound.  I wasn't running running running like a chicken with my head cut off. If I didn't finish oh well the world would not end.  

I started really understanding and living Biblical principals particular Mathew 11:28-30 and Mathew 6:34.  Before I was always depending on myself to accomplish everything, when I let go of worry and that STRONGHOLD FEAR  I allowed God to come in direct and lead me in the right directions.  My life became much more simple. I didn't feel like I was going around and around but never getting any results. 

Now don't get me wrong I still let worry and fear creep in every now and then but then I remember there is no point in worrying in fact worry can be quite deadly. 

Worry, Anxiety, and Stress are contributors to most of the 75-90% of all hospital visits.   Worry is killing people.  And don't think that your problems have to be bad for worry to get it's STRONGHOLD on you.  You and I, both have met plenty of people who are financially secure by most standards yet worry the most.  I remember visiting these clients who had gotten married two years previously and their home was extremely cluttered and unsafe. 

Instead of getting a bigger home or storage for their now blended family they “stored” everything in their home. The husband was so worried about money he would not allow the wife to buy anything even with her own money. She desperately needed some nutrition supplements and essential oils but he couldn't see spending that money.  Yet this young couple already had saved over $200,000 in the bank and had no debt. That STRONGHOLD eventually led to the demise of their marriage. 

Worry can lead to addictions, hoarding, and worse, the end of your relationships and your health. 

I want you to think about what you worry about. Do you worry what people will think of your messy house or the things you have to don't have in your home?  Do you worry if your family will like your new wife?  Do you worry if your children will stay healthy, get good grades, or become a good person? 

Write down what you worry about. 

Now I want you to look at that list and STOP WORRYING…..  That might be impossible for many of you because worry is your habit it is in your programming. 

But there are some SECRET WEAPONs to kill WORRY.

THANKSGIVING:  See worry is a verb and action something that you consciously or unconsciously do.  In order to re-write your programming you will need to also have another action — GRATITUDE – the action of Thanksgiving.

In her book 1000 Gifts a Dare to live fully right where you are by Ann Voskamp the reader is taught to be grateful for things that we mostly miss when we are in worry.  If you struggle with worry or live in fear most days then I highly recommend this book and follow the instructions. 

Accepting God's grace as your Provider.  For anyone out there who has been on top of the world physically, emotionally and financially and then the next day lost it all you will attest to how fleeting things can be.  When I learned not to worry about money (and am still learning) that is when God's grace opened up.

If you need more help on that open up the Bible and read the stories of the amazing grace poured out on a who lot of people who didn't deserve it.

Let go of Control:  If you are a controlling person like I used to be it is very difficult to let GOD take over let alone another person. No one can do it as good as you.  Well that may be true but we all have to let go to move forward in life.  If you truly want to grow your business, raise amazing independent healthy minded children, develop into the best person you can be we have to let go and let GOD. 

Don't do drugs do OILS….  I have met numerous people who end up medicated do to the worry and anxiety in their life.  If you are on those meds please be aware you can not just come off them without some serious and sometimes fatal side effects.  Please work with a qualified doctor who has a lot of experience in taking patients off those meds successfully.  

But whether you are on medication or not and you have worry or stress you can use therapeutic Young Living essential oils like Stress AwayValorPeace and Calming, or Tranquil oils to help decompress and relax your brain and body.  When you inhale an oil like Young Living essential oils that are pure and free from synthetics your brain immediately responds. These specific oils have been scientifically been proven to bring you into a state of relaxation.

Many Young Living users will inhale oils 10-20 times a day as well as wear them as perfume or cologne to protect their health and calm their mind. 

Simplify:  In my office one of the doors has a sign that says simplify.   Having less, doing less, running less, can add a great deal of peace to your life.

This summer I started a Program that helped people get off the streets and into a learning and growing environment that mentored them to a better life.  I probably used this program as a crutch after my miscarriage to fill a void. You caretakers know that too well…. take care of everyone else but ourselves. 
Well I found over the months that this was bringing more and more stress to me and my family.  I came to the conclusion that I needed to let go of this program in order to put myself and my family first. I did and it was like a huge weight off me.  I also reclaimed some things I lost due to that program and feel a much greater peace and simplicity in my life.

Lastly I just want to share with you that I am still no expert on Not Worrying, but since I have incorporated the above recommendations into my life I am a whole lot happier and have a great deal of peace in my life.  I wish this same Peace for you. 

God Bless you, your family and your life to Total Wellness.

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Dr. Mary Starr Carter is known as  the Total Wellness Doc. She has been training individuals about Natural Health Solutions for over 13 years. She is trained as a Chiropractor and has studied under the world’s foremost leaders in natural medicine. She is a mother and a wife and has created a balanced and total wellness life for herself and thousands of her clients using her simple wholistic approach to health and wellness. Her coaching, classes and ebooks help clients with Fibromyalgia, Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes, Weight problems, Thyroid and Chronic pain find resources and solutions to better health.

We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.

Are You a Door Mat?

Are you a Door Mat?  
Saying NO, Setting Boundaries, and Expressing your True Feelings

Dr. Mary Starr Carter
 

I pointed to the door mat and said to my client Karen  " you are not a door mat". See for the past several years many people had been taking advantage of her. She was a retired with a huge heart for people and animals and it seemed like her family, friends and service organizations she belonged to were constantly calling to get her to do things. 

For years she obliged and spent hundreds of hours and thousands of dollars caring for the needs of others.  She was at her breaking point. Her blood pressure was 220/100 and the doctor wanted to hospitalize her. 

She was very scared and VERY STRESSED. Kari had put everyone's needs before her own until she literally was ready to explode. The physical is directly related to your emotional health.  If you have poor emotional health and balance you will see physical deterioration.  For some it can lead to early death.   

Peggy was on that same track. Almost ready to retire she was still always saying yes to whatever or whomever asked for her help. She worked for almost 15 years like a dog from April – October managing and caring for a Seasonal store. She literally worked her fingers to the bone. She would work 10-12 hr days, many 6-7 days a week .  

Her hands were now all arthritic. And during her "off" time of the year she was babysitting her granddaughter, filling in at her cousins store, and really never taking any time for herself. 
 

To make it worse she had step children that wanted everything but were never grateful. They were mean, hurtful and offensive at every family gathering. Yet Peggy never said anything. Peggy was almost 60 when she began to really physically and mentally lose it. 

All those years of saying YES of biting her tongue when people hurt her were building up.  One day her step child said an ungrateful statement and something inside of Peggy exploded.  All that anger just came to the surface and she ran over slapped the girl across the face and ripped out part of her hair. THIS WAS NOT PEGGY. Peggy was a quiet peaceful person, but all those years of not expressing her feelings of hurt and anger came out at once. 

Peggy was mortified that she was even capable of that kind of behavior. She sought counseling and learned why that happened and developed techniques of Saying NO , Expressing herself and setting Boundaries that not only will avoid it ever happening again but brought a great deal of joy to her heart.  Surprisingly she is a much happier, healthier, has released 30lbs without even changing her eating or exercise. 
 
In both Kari and Peggy's case they were physically and emotionally deteriorating because they did not CARE for themselves enough to SAY NO, express their feelings, and stop the bad behavior towards them. 
 
Saying NO –  Setting Boundaries:

For some us we are innately wired to want people to like us. Somewhere in that programming we think that doing things for others will cause them to like us. Even as adults when this knowledge no longer makes sense we are wired subconsciously to do this. We give things away, we may even overlook our own self care to care for others.     

Saying No to others is about Saying YES to yourself.  It's about loving yourself and your physical and emotional health enough to make a change for the better. Saying NO is hard at first but it is crucial to your health. 

Whether it is to your mom, sister, brother, principal, or church saying no is important. Sometimes you may have to say no to everything for a period of time to re-group, retreat, and regain your own health and the health of your family. 

Many individuals don't realize that saying YES to everyone may mean you are saying NO to your family or spouse or worse yourself. 

Make sure you have prioritized what and whom is most important in your life and then base your decisions of how often and whom you say yes to on that. 
 
Expressing your Feelings : 

It is not my forte to teach you how to express your feelings because I still am not good at it. Of course you will find me crying at every sad story because I do have deep compassion but to share my own feelings that is difficult.

But I have learned a lot from Dr. Lavonne Atnip an incredible psychologist and marriage counselor. We can end up with all sorts of dysfunction for our childhood and adolescents even if you had great parents. Some people at an early age were chastised for showing emotion so now to them expressing how they feel will only lead to pain in their minds. 

Others when they were young would express themselves and were told that they were stupid.  All these things can lead to adults not expressing their true feelings or expressing them inappropriately, including Low Self Esteem.  

I am not qualified to tell you how to break these habits but I do have some great resources:

Dr. Lavonne Atnip offers phone consultation to people all over the US. 

The book Boundaries  by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. Robert Townsend.   

Healing for Damaged Emotions   David Seamans and Beth Funk  

We have to understand that more STRESS can be caused by not saying NO, not setting boundaries with people or environments in our life, or not expressing our true feelings.  Stress can lead to your physical demise…..  REALLY.  

Right now you may feel it could be more stressful to SAY NO, SET BOUNDARIES, or EXPRESS YOURSELF.  That may be true for a short period of time, but if you want to work through that you can have a much more REWARDING and FUFILLING LIFE and most of all experience TOTAL WELLNESS.  

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11/22/11  How to eat what you want during the holidays and not get sick or gain weight?
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Veteran’s Day: A Day to Remember

Veteran's Day : A Day to Remember

By Dr. Mary Starr Carter

I started crying when I read the Sunday paper.  It shared a story of a local Solider who only got to spend two weeks with his new baby and wife before he was deployed and then killed in Iraq.  I thought that is so sad, and then I thought how blessed my family is.  Blessed that we don't have to worry about my husband being deployed for months at a time, or risking his life.  Today's blog are just a few stories and sacrifices that these soldiers do for us.

Sacrifice to their Relationships
When I heard the news I was crushed.  Some dear friends were getting divorced.  He was a Coast Guard who was deployed about a week every month and she had a small business owner.  WHAT?  I couldn't believe it. They were so happy.  But then I thought about my relationship even before I was married when my then boyfriend and now husband would be apart for more than a week or two. It was miserable and we could talk every night unlike many soldiers.   Soldiers and their families sacrifice their relationships and sometimes their marriages to serve us.  Sometimes their marriages survive sometimes they don't.    
 

Sacrifice of themselves
Two Sunday's ago I was walking through the Atlanta airport with my husband and 7 month old son. I remember how happy we all were. As we were coming around a corner I noticed a young man in a wheel chair, what looked like his wife pushing a stroller with a baby and another airport attendant pushing him.

As I looked closer I noticed the young man had a bandaged arm. In fact he was missing his arm below the elbow. And then I saw his t-shirt. It said Fallen Hero. It hit me he was an injured war veteran. I instantly was wrecked. As we turned the corner I began to cry. My husband noticed and said what is wrong? I couldn't speak my heart hurt so badly for this veteran. I thought of not just him, but all those affected by war. I thought of my friend Loralee Johnson's brother who was killed in the war.


Soldier’s sacrifice their bodies and sometimes their lives for you and me.

Sacrifice of their minds
We don't see real war when we watch TV, but soldiers do.  Many see awful things that lead to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. PTSD can lead to medication or self medication.  Today many soldiers are being medicated on low dosages of anti-depressants even before they are deployed. 

Sara Cost's * son returned home with terrible side effects from multiple anti-depressant usage.   It took several months but he was able to regain his healthy mind and get off the medications with the help of his doctor and some natural medicinal treatments. 

Amy Smith * brother was not so lucky.  He spiraled into alcohol and drug use when he returned suffering with PTSD and anti-depressant drug side effects.  He has been in and out of jail multiple times since his return.  He was not that person before he left. 
Soldiers sacrifice their emotional health for us.

Sacrifice of their Spirit
Tom* was a good Christian boy when he left for the Navy besides a bit of a party side he loved God and his family.  He went into the nuclear navy where he lived with 100 people on a submarine 292 ft long, 39 ft wide with a nuclear reactor, food storage and supplies.  For more than 30 days and up to 3 months the sub was submerged with no daylight or leave.  During his last year of enlistment Tom's good friend was killed in a motor-vehicle accident.  That was his final straw he rebelled lost all his Armed Service benefits and ended up in a lifestyle far from God for many years.   

Being a Soldier is a sacrifice to their spirit.

Honor
This Sunday I was in the Chicago airport and all of sudden I heard clapping getting nearer and nearer me. I looked and there is an American flag and women holding signs in front of a young man returning from the army. All the airport patrons were clapping for this solider.  It was very honorable.  Unfortunately not all soldiers get this honor.

Whether we agree or not with the decision for troops to be overseas these men and women have sacrificed a great deal for their country.  They have sacrificed their bodies, lives, emotional and spiritual health.  This Veteran's day and every day remember to pray for them and honor them. 

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We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.


 

The Road to Wellness: Dealing with Stress

The Road to Wellness:  Dealing with STRESS
Lessons learned from the STRESSED OUT and the STRESSLESS
By Dr. Mary Starr Carter 

Terry came up to me with a sad smile. “How have you been?”  “Good I said, How about you”   “I am dying he says….   Why are you stressed out?  I've got all these projects and deadlines and I am not going to make my Saturday deadline. 

It keeps me up at night.  I tell you just give me a gun I want to shoot myself….  “What I say doesn’t tell me that I am a doctor I am legally bound to report those statements I jokingly respond…  You know I am kidding.  He proceeds to complain that if his clients were sloppy they should have hired someone else.   Terry is a perfectionist, everything has to be just so. Now I know, he is joking about wanting to kill himself but the fact is he is STRESSED OUT.   

Wil has a full time job, a family, some real estate, and also does some website work for people on the side.  He is the type of guy who can't say NO.  He has gained 30lbs over the past two years and he has been on and off sick every other month with a cold, sinus infection or lung congestion for the past 6 months . His body is trying to tell him something.  

Sarah is super talented. She speaks all across the United States with hundreds and even thousands of people in her audiences.  She helps so many, but is driven to travel a minimum of once a month for 3-4 days at a time. Her body is deteriorating even though she takes lots of supplements.  She doesn't believe in rest.  Even when she is home she is working and going all the time.  She just won't quit.

All three of these individuals are STRESSED OUT. 

HERE IS WHAT I SEE IN STRESSED OUT PEOPLE

1)  The are always striving to be perfect, do better, good is never good enough

2)  They over promise to people please

3)  They can't say NO to anything. 

The greatest thing my mentor taught me is “just because you can        doesn't mean you should”

4)  They are STRIVING all the time. 

The word Strife or Striving means “lack of agreement”, “state of conflict” or “war”.   The Bible is very clear about the downfalls of Strife.

5) They are money driven and no matter how much they get or have saved it's not enough.  

Money and having it is not bad, it's when we have our own personal issues with money like the LOVE OF IT.   Mathew 6:24 is a good statement to read out of the Bible about the love of money. 

But the fact is WE ALL HAVE STRESS, but why is it some people like our three friends end up with heart disease and a variety of health problems and others can handle mountains of stress with out ever getting ILL physically or emotionally.  

I believe it has a lot of how they deal with it.  Here are some observations I have made of those who LIVE in AMAZING HEALTH with MOUNTAINS OF STRESSFUL things in their lives.  I call these individuals the STRESSLESS.  There stressors vary from huge Multi-million dollar businesses, to caring for a disabled child or ill parents.

Here are my observations of how they deal with STRESS:

1)  Acceptance:  “It is ….what it is“    They accept the situation they are in unconditionally.

2)  Live in the moment:   They don't look back at things they could have done better a year ago or even yesterday.  They live in the NOW. 

3) Positive, Positive, and Positive:  Even if their house just burned down their words, thoughts, and actions stay attached to a positive rope. The words that come out of their mouths are NEVER Negative. 

We all have heard the phrase the Power of the tongue. Dr. Lavonne Atnip a Psychologist and Christian Marriage Counselor teaches in depth about this. She says even saying the words, “I am tired” causes the mind to respond and create tiredness in the body.  Our poor friend Terry doesn't realize with every word and complaint he utters especially like “I want to die” although his logical mind knows differently he is creating a physiological response in his body that is NOT GOOD.

4) They have a basic mentality that they were put on this earth to serve. It can be a small or big capacity but the mentality and fullness of their life after you meet them all seems the same.  A mom who cares for her autistic son or a Pastor who leads thousands to Christ a year. 

5) They let go of their burdens and Let God deal with it.  Most of these individuals have a deep connection to GOD.  They live this Bible Verse, 
"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." Matthew 11:28-30  

None of us can wake up tomorrow and change into people like these Healthy Happy Stressless individuals, but we can wake up tomorrow and work on ONE thing.  Maybe we can stop using the phrase, “I am dying” or “this is killing me” the next time we are at the gym or doing something hard.   

Pick one thing that you can do tomorrow to start on the road to a STRESSLESS LIFE.   Write it in the Comment Section and we will all support each other on the road to health. 

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We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.

Hospital Doctor Recognizes that Lifestyle Causes the Majority of Sick Patients

Hospital Doctor Recognizes that Lifestyle Causes the Majority of Sick Patients

By Dr. Mary Starr Carter


Diabetes affects 25.8 million people and 8.3% of the U.S. population. According to CDC at least 7 million are undiagnosed. Out of these numbers, 215,000 are below age 20 and in 2010 alone, there were 1.9 million newly diagnosed patients.

That is a piece of staggering news and most of the issues started because of lifestyle…
Added to the above news, CDC reported it contributed to $116 billion in direct medical costs and $58 billion of indirect medical costs (due to disability, work loss or premature mortality). Diabetes will also lead to kidney failure, heart disease, hypertension, stroke and some cases blindness and amputating limbs.

People with diabetes have higher medical bills compared to non-diabetes people with the cost of doctor’s visits, hospital stays (for some) and insulin and oral medication.

That is just one example of health problems and huge medical bills that Americans are facing that is related to our lifestyle…the food we eat, the lack of exercise and the lack of education of nutrition.
Childhood obesity has tripled in the last 30 years. The CDC defined being overweight and obesity as:
Overweight is defined as having excess body weight for a particular height from fat, muscle, bone, water, or a combination of these factors. Obesity is defined as having excess body fat.

We can make a change as a family and as a community if we are willing to learn and implement:
Healthier diet
Physical activities
Nutritional supplements
Education/coaching on healthy diets and total wellness
Willingness to make a change, doing it and having the encouragement and support to continue through for long term health and wellness

Below is a video of my short conversation with Dr. Marc Walker, a hospital doctor who sees patients in the hospital, where 80% of the cases are lifestyle related diseases. He said we should take pro-active steps to prevent diseases by nutritional supplementation and exercise.

 

As your Total Wellness Doc, I would like to come alongside and help you reach your total wellness and take steps to a healthier lifestyle.

 

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Dr. Mary Starr Carter is known as the Total Wellness Doc. She has been training individuals about Natural Health Solutions for over 13 years. She is trained as a Chiropractor and has studied under the world’s foremost leaders in natural medicine. She is a mother and a wife and has created a balanced and total wellness life for herself and thousands of her clients using her simple wholistic approach to health and wellness. Her coaching, classes and ebooks help clients with Fibromyalgia, Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes, Weight problems, Thyroid and Chronic pain find resources and solutions to better health.

We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.

The Road to Illness

The Road to Illness
By Dr. Mary Starr Carter

In late August I was really pushing myself with little sleep and eating more breads and what I call dead food. One particular weekend I pushed really hard to fit 5 days of activities into one and at the end of the day I ate a super sugary dessert.

Within 7 days I had a cold.  🙁   But since I know how to get well quick that is exactly what I did heal quickly.  8 days later I was flying in an airplane (germ tube)  to California where I ate very clean (fresh foods, no sugar, no dairy, not a lot of bread)  and I felt great.  I flew home and a day later on only 3 hrs sleep left for Florida.  For 5 days we lived in a whirlwind of conferences and go go go mode but again we ate fairly good.  

Then while on my resting vacation I slowly stopped taking my nutritional supplements daily, ate maybe one raw fruit or veggie a day, and although I had gone weeks without it I started eating sugar again.   Treats at the movies, a candy bar when I starving, desserts you couldn't resist.  That was it once my body has a taste of sugar it wanted more, so I would eat gross packaged cookies that I normally wouldn't just to get the sugar in.  No one forced me to do these things I made these choices and I eventually suffered the consequences. A day after we flew back home from vacation I got sick again. 

The Road to Illness 

#1   Sugar will lower your immune system    
 

In the book "Get The Sugar Out" by Ann Louise Gittleman she states, "No matter what form it takes, sugar paralyzes the immune system in a variety of ways:

Sugar has been proven to destroy the germ-killing ability of white blood cells for up to five hours after ingestion.

It reduces the production of antibodies, proteins that combine with and inactivate foreign invaders in the body.

It interferes with the transport of vitamin C, one of the most important nutrients for all facets of immune function.

It causes mineral imbalances and sometimes allergic reactions, both of which weaken the immune system.

It neutralizes the action of essential fatty acids, thus making cells more permeable to invasion by allergens and microorganisms."

And don't be fooled Sugar is many things you may not be aware of and other things that turn to sugar in the body like :  Ketchup, Breads, Salad Dressing, Popcorn, Potatoes, and the list goes on. 

Researchers are even showing that CANCER grows significantly faster on a daily diet including sugar.

YIKES  that would make anyone stop sugar …. unless you are sugar sensitive.  Sugar sensitive people like me are literally addicts.  Once we get a taste of it we want more.  Sugar has been classified as a drug causing a physiological change in our brains and behavior. We  all need to treat sugar more like a drug than a  that. 

#2  Lack of sleep  will lower your immune system

Sleep is a necessity for wellness.  I have discussed sleep a lot in my newsletters and also have our FREE sleep ebook. But recently worked with a Sleep Technician who enlightened me about Sleep disorders.  If you would like to hear more about that you are welcome to listen to our recorded Teleclass at   http://InstantTeleseminar.com/?eventid=22985013 

When you are sick or getting run down you need to cancel appointments, get a sitter, delegate and get some rest.  R-E-S-T  don't want to hear your excuses…. get some rest.  .

#3  Stress causes DIS-EASE  

Don't think STRESS has anything to do with your cold or illness, think again. Continuous stress on the body leads to illness.  And stress comes in different forms.  The body can experience stress from our environment, our thoughts, other people, electrical equipment,  and even airplanes.   Flying at certain altitudes stresses the thyroid gland.  A very important gland for you total wellness.   I discuss more about the role of the Thyroid in our online class 5-20lbs.

#4  Lack of Exercise  

Exercise helps to keep you healthy.  Both Cardio Vascular and Strength exercises help maintain and strengthen your immune system.  Plus you get a great dose of happy hormones. 

You could seen how my two week vacation of exercising only 3 times led to a few poor moods and a lowered immune system.  So let's add it up.

SUGAR + Lack of SLEEP +  STRESS  + Lack of Exercise = DIS- EASE  

In addition  all these things also Stress and Thyroid which I know contributed to my Cold.   I am ready to take control of the Wheel again and get back to WellNESS how about you?

Next blog we  will talk about how to recover from Illness and Cold  quickly.  

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Dr. Mary Starr Carter is known as the Total Wellness Doc. She has been training individuals about Natural Health Solutions for over 13 years. She is trained as a Chiropractor and has studied under the world’s foremost leaders in natural medicine. She is a mother and a wife and has created a balanced and total wellness life for herself and thousands of her clients using her simple wholistic approach to health and wellness. Her coaching, classes and ebooks help clients with Fibromyalgia, Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes, Weight problems, Thyroid and Chronic pain find resources and solutions to better health.

We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.



 

Let Go of Financial Burdens and Get your Health Back

Let Go of Financial Burdens and Get your Health Back
By Dr. Mary Starr Carter 

Do you have Financial Burden in you life?  You know the type of debt that you can just barely cover every month.  Or maybe you are behind in your financial obligations.  Or worse maybe you are facing foreclosure on your home.

More and more of my financially smart friends are doing things like selling their homes and moving to a rental, releasing their mortgages, living with only one car.  Why would they make the decision to do this?

In the movie Larry Crowne starring Tom Hanks and Julia Roberts, Larry loses his job of many years and decides to go back to school.  He can't afford his house (living in California) and strategically gives it back to the bank.  His big gas hogging SUV is put up for sale and he starts riding a scooter.  In essence he unburdens his life and becomes much happier. 

Opposite this scenario is my 50 year old single friend whose health has deteriorated through the years from stress and lack of self care.  Her stressors are both relational and financial and when she comes home at the end of the day she is responsible for EVERYTHING. 

DEBT is DECEPTIVE

The American Dream of owning a home is very deceptive
A homeowner must do or outsource many things including:  Cleaning, Maintenance, Lawn Mowing, Garage Take out, plus all the financial burdens of mortgages and taxes.  (In my state NY, taxes on a $125,000 home, per month are as much as a 2 bedroom apartment would cost per month.) If something happens in your home and you aren't handy you must outsource it.  Stoves that don't work, Toilets that break, Hot Water tank breaks down, all this can cost a home owner on average $500-1500 a year. 

And the deception that your house is your retirement fund, that when you retire you can sell your house and live off of that money is not good financial sense any more in most situations. 

But my husband (a real estate investor) wants me to make the point if you strategically learn real estate investing you can create an additional or significant income.  But this too can be burdensome as one of my single friends found out while trying to get her deceased parents home ready to sell. She thought she would save money doing almost everything herself.  Almost 4 years later she has depleted her savings, deteriorated her health and still has not sold it.  All this to get an additional POSSIBLE $50,000 – $100,000 more. 

What is 4 years of your life worth?  What is your health worth?  I hope more than that. One word – WHOLESALE…  look up wholesaling a home if you are in that same situation.

STAY AWAY FROM THE BIG RED CHECK

Recently I was reunited with my old college roommate who has a business of repossessing cars. It was really interesting listening and learning the process of how these car dealership credit companies get you. THE BIG RED CHECK… if you see that when applying for a car loan… RUN…..  If you get a loan with these companies and miss just one payment they will come to take your car, and to get it back, you will have to catch up on your payment and spend minimum in $250 in penalties.

MAKING MORE MONEY IS NOT THE ANSWER

I know this statement is true because just several years ago my husband and I were earning over 6 figures a year and spending all of our income every month plus an additional $1000 on credit cards. We had $250,000 in debt.   BUT by learning just a few principals of wealth we paid off over $170,000 in debt in a little over 3 years.  YOU CAN TOO.  My best recommendation for learning Wealth Principals of keeping your money and paying off debt is War on Debt a program by America’s Secret Millionaire, Dani Johnson.  http://www.danijohnson.com/successtools/self-improvement/war-on-debt-home-study-program/  Get the program it will change your life.

DEBT = DISEASE 
With over a decade of working with clients who struggle with Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue, Rheumatoid Arthritis and other chronic illnesses I have found that 90% of them have had periods of or currently have very stressful financial situations.  Whether they were sole providers like single parents with no financial support from a former spouse, they had lost a job, they or a child needed hospitalization that left them in debt…. and the list goes on.  

I have no doubt that stressful DEBT = DISEASE.  If you are someone who is struggling financially act NOW.  Don't wait the longer you wait the worse it gets.  Face the situation, do what needs to be done, invest in War on Debt and apply what you learn.  These steps not only can help you get your life in order it can literally improve your health! 

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Dr. Mary Starr Carter is known as the Total Wellness Doc. She has been training individuals about Natural Health Solutions for over 13 years. She is trained as a Chiropractor and has studied under the world’s foremost leaders in natural medicine. She is a mother and a wife and has created a balanced and total wellness life for herself and thousands of her clients using her simple wholistic approach to health and wellness. Her coaching, classes and ebooks help clients with Fibromyalgia, Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes, Weight problems, Thyroid and Chronic pain find resources and solutions to better health.

 

We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.

Skin Cancer

As a Chiropractor who sees a lot of backs we have had several cases of individuals who have had the signs of skin cancer on their back but did not know it.  Because some individuals live alone and do not get regular dermatological check ups we may be there only set of eyes.  We encourage everyone to get or do a thorough examination for skin cancers twice a year.  If you have the risk factors for skin cancer or have had cancers in the past please seek proper dermatological attention.  The following information is not meant to diagnose or prescribe but rather for education purposes only.  

Enjoy the short video and scroll down to learn more about skin cancer.

 

 

I encourage everyone to do a google search a look up the images of what Melanoma and other skin cancers look like.  Keep these in a folder on your computer or print them out so you can stay aware and use these photos to do your own periodic body observations.

The following is from the American Cancer Society  http://www.cancer.org/Cancer/CancerCauses/SunandUVExposure/skin-cancer-facts  

Skin Cancer  

Skin cancer is the most common of all cancers. It accounts for nearly half of all cancers in the United States. More than 2 million cases of non-melanoma skin cancer are found in this country each year. Melanoma, the most serious type of skin cancer, will account for about 68,130 cases of skin cancer in 2010.

Most non-melanoma skin cancers develop on sun-exposed areas of the body, like the face, ear, neck, lips, and the backs of the hands. Depending on the type, they can be fast or slow growing, but they rarely spread to other parts of the body.


Basal cell or squamous cell cancers are highly likely to be cured if detected and treated early.
Melanoma, the most serious type of skin cancer, will account for about 68,130 cases of skin cancer in 2010 and most (about 8,700) of the 11,790 deaths due to skin cancer each year.


The overall 5-year survival rate for melanoma is 91%. For localized melanoma, the 5-year survival rate is 98%; survival rates for regional and distant stage diseases are 62% and 15%, respectively. About 84% of melanomas are diagnosed at a localized stage.


What are the signs and symptoms of skin cancer?


Skin cancer can be found early, and both doctors and patients play important roles in finding skin cancer. If you have any of the following symptoms, tell your doctor.
•    Any change on the skin, especially in the size or color of a mole or other darkly pigmented growth or spot, or a new growth
•    Scaliness, oozing, bleeding, or change in the appearance of a bump or nodule
•    The spread of pigmentation beyond its border such as dark coloring that spreads past the edge of a mole or mark
•    A change in sensation, itchiness, tenderness, or pain


What are the risk factors for skin cancer?


Risk factors for non-melanoma and melanoma skin cancers include:
•    Unprotected and/or excessive exposure to ultraviolet (UV) radiation
•    Fair complexion
•    Occupational exposures to coal tar, pitch, creosote, arsenic compounds, or radium
•    Family history
•    Multiple or atypical moles
•    Severe sunburns as a child

Skin Cancer is scary but the rate of survival if detected early is more than 90%.  Stay diligent and use Young Living Essential Oils of Frankincense and Grapefruit for further protection.  

 

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Dr. Mary Starr Carter is known as the Total Wellness Doc. She has been training individuals about Natural Health Solutions for over 13 years. She is trained as a Chiropractor and has studied under the world’s foremost leaders in natural medicine. She is a mother and a wife and has created a balanced and total wellness life for herself and thousands of her clients using her simple wholistic approach to health and wellness. Her coaching, classes and ebooks help clients with Fibromyalgia, Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes, Weight problems, Thyroid and Chronic pain find resources and solutions to better health.

We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.

Your Health and Your Sex Life

Your Health and Your Sex Life

By Dr. Mary Starr Carter

Sex within a healthy marriage is awesome and if you have a healthy marriage I don’t have to answer why…..

But the quality of your Sex Life can be a reflection of one or both spouse’s health. Here are some common myths when it comes to sex.

Myth:  It is natural as we age for our libido to decrease

Actually this is not correct.  If you examine some of the longest living cultures alive today they not only are enjoying sex in their later years but actually conceiving at 50 and 60 without any medical help.

A healthy male will have virility to his late years. And woman way past her sixties in many of these cultures.

What do these cultures have that we don’t in most modernized countries?

Clean Foods no processed foods or sugar.

Daily physical exercise from labor.

Cleansing or Fasting 30-100 days a year.

Nature’s unadulterated medicine.

A lot less Cortisol (stress hormone) raising Stress

In these cultures there are no cases of Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue, or Digestive Diseases like Ulcerative Colitis and Crohn’s.

Myth:  It is normal for an older male not be able to have an erection or ejaculation

This is incorrect.  Certain diseases like Diabetes, Stenosis of the spinal cord (arthritis pushing on the spinal cord), Bulging discs on the spinal cord, and many medications can all cause issues with sexual performance.

As a Chiropractor I have to say that blockages in your nervous system the body’s Master System may be causing symptoms.  Some older men have found regular Chiropractic adjustments very beneficial to their overall health.

 

Myth:  Drugs can fix my “sex problems”

In the past two decades they have found many harmful and even fatal side effects of some common erectile dysfunction drugs.

Ironically the same drugs that are suppose to make us happy (Anti-depressants) have a common side effect of decreased libido.  And don’t forget that alcohol and recreational drugs also will affect your sexual performance.

Even something as simple as a cholesterol medication can decrease the cholesterol needed to produce hormones that give us our sex drive.

So if you are having trouble investigate these things first before turning to medications.

Myth:  What I eat has no effect on my sexual performance? 

This is incorrect, especially if you are trying to have a baby.  Men who eat a junk food diet filled with high saturated fats, sugar, and sodas like Mountain DoDo have been found to have a lower motility and sperm count.  Over time these things lead to stressed out organs, nervous system, and hormonal system resulting in dis-ease like Diabetes.

NingXia Red is just a highly concentrated fruit drink that is extremely safe for all ages and health conditions.  There is no caffeine or herbs in it just nature’s medicine fruits that help to re-build the body.  After 6 weeks of 6 oz a day most every person I talk to comments how ALIVE they feel & how much VITALITY they feel.  If you would like to know more about NingXia Red go to  http://www.starrhealth.myningxia.com/

Myth:  Exercise will reduce my Sex Drive

Exercise is an important part of your health and can increase your libido by increasing the Happy Hormones in your body as well as specific hormones that help keep you young.

If you overtrain you can decrease your oomph by stressing the adrenal glands which are an important part of your endocrine hormone system.  One great tip for Exercisers is to drink an ounce of NingXia Red in 8 oz of water while you exercise and make sure your body is getting enough minerals, B vitamins, and Fish oils.

This is just a glimpse at what Nutrition and Exercise can do your Sex Life. But here is my Bonus and Advice for those who want it don’t feel you have to take it.

As a spouse who has been through marriage training and individual counseling I would have to say the most effective training we had as a couple was www.firststepstosuccess.com


It may seem weird that we went to a business training to get
our marriage straight but it ended up like that.  I tell every person I know that this is where I learned to be a good listener and wife. To honor my husband and build a foundation of success. I won’t comment on my sex life in honor of my husband, but I will end by saying some of the best things you can do for your marriage and sex life happen outside the bedroom.

Let us know what you think. Please comment below.  Be tasteful and respectful.

Dr. Mary Starr Carter has worked with thousands of clients from terminally ill and chronic diseases to those who are healthy and want vibrant health.  She has counseled hundreds of families who had given up hope find simple safe solutions. Known as the Total Wellness Doc she looks at all aspects of health to help someone overcome disease.    She specializes in difficult cases like Fibromyalgia,  Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes and Chronic pain.

We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.

Foundations of your Health Success


Foundations of Success
 
By Dr. Mary Starr Carter 
 
 
Foundations of Success in our health come from small steps toward a future goal.  Once we have reached that goal we must take daily actions to maintain our success.   
 
Sounds simple enough right?!   Success in most things can be simple but not easy.  If it were easy we would have a majority population of fit, healthy and wealthy individuals.
 
When it comes to Health Success Foundations,  the best examples  come from the world's top Athletes.  The top three foundations of their success are Habits, Routines and Self Discipline. 
 
Let's be real and ask ourselves the following questions: 
 

 
What Habits do I have that are good for my health? 

 

What Habits do I have or don't have that are destructive to my health?

What Routines are health promoting for me? 
 
What Routines are healthy for my family?
 
What areas of my life am I disciplined in a positive way? 
 
What areas of my life do I need self discipline?  
 
No one is perfect, that is not what this is about. It is about looking at ourselves honestly and giving ourself praise for what we do do good and get real with what we aren't. 
 
Some of may be feeling like you don't even know the answers to these questions. You may need another set of eyes to help you see the positive in your life and areas you need to improve. 
 
Let me suggest a 30 minute Wellness Coaching Session to help you Begin on the Road to Health. Click here for more info:  http://www.thetotalwellnessdoc.com/wellness-coaching
 
 
 
Routine: Every person and family will have a different routine, but routines are a foundation of success.  What time do you wake up, go to bed, when do you study, when do you eat, how often do you eat….. and the list goes on. 
 
When it comes to your health having a routine of food and fitness is important.  But so is having some weekly or even daily me time, fun time, family time, couple time, and God time.   
 
I learned having a routine for my children is extremely important to their health.  Starting when they are an infant.  
 
What routines are best for you?  What routine do you think you might want to test out for the next few weeks to see if it is a fit for you? What routines are you ready to implement? 
 
 
 
Habits:  In Stephen Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People his 7th Habit includes Sharpening the Saw.  This means preserving and enhancing the best asset you have YOU. 
 
There are many Health Habits we can adopt including: 
 
Drinking 1/2 our body weight in oz of water per day
Exercising daily 
Speaking Kindness and Love over our body and about ourselves 
 
What are some Healthy habits you can adopt to Sharpen your Saw? 
 
They say it takes 21 days to set a habit. I agree and suggest to my clients to start with a 30 day goal. This leaves room for rest days and other things that might come up in our lives. 
 
Habits and Routines all have 1 thing in common….. they all need 
Self Discipline otherwise known as Self Control
 
 
Self Control:  Self Discipline and Self Control may be hard words to hear. When we think of the word discipline some of us might cringe or want to run away because of harsh upbringing or perfection standards.
 
I see clients who lack these foundations most of the time and then I also see clients who take this concept to the extreme thinking that perfection will come from strick standards on self.  Both of these concepts can cause Physical and Emotional issues. 
 
I want to leave you with a different picture of Self Control. This belief is my belief and although you don't have to agree I hope you will be open enough to just think about it.  
 
In the Bible it clearly states that Self Control is a gift of the Holy Spirit to us.   A gift to overcome our fleshy unmotivated and sometimes gluttonous bodies. Did you ever think about praying to God to help you overcome Food Addictions, the lack of motivation to exercise, even to help you to wake up at 5am and feel rested. 
 
 
Really Dr. Mary?  Yes I have seen it in my own life and many others. Simple things like feeling fully rested on a few hours sleep to miraculous things where clients have radically been delivered  from addiction of alcohol, drugs or even sugar.  It is real. God can do all things we just have to ASK and BELIEVE! 
 

 

Please share with us your comments about this article in the comment section in the bottom of this page.

 
 
 
 
 
 

Dr. Mary Starr Carter has worked with thousands of clients from terminally ill and chronic diseases to those who are healthy and want vibrant health.  She has counseled hundreds of families who had given up hope find simple safe solutions. Known as the Total Wellness Doc she looks at all aspects of health to help someone overcome disease.    She specializes in difficult cases like Fibromyalgia,  Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes and Chronic pain.

 

 We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.

The Health Care Package

The Health Care Package
By Dr. Mary Starr Carter
 

 
Care and Feeding of your College Students

Here are some of the challenges of living in College Dorms or College Apartment living. I can tell you from experience because of my degree I spent 9 years in college. Avoiding the Freshmen 15lbs, dealing with new stressors and lack of sleep can be hard. College students are prone to higher incidence of colds and flu, fungal infections, and bacteria infections.

Many parents pay for or help support their child's education, but rarely do we think of supporting their health. Why not start sending them a Health Care Package. Here is what you would put in it and why.

Ear Plugs: there are so many distractions at college that your child may have a hard time focusing or even sleeping at night because of all the noise. When I was in school ear plugs were my best friend. They help you tune out and are able to concentrate or sleep when you need to.

Most freshmen going off to college will be sharing a small room with one or two other individuals as well as living quarters with dozens more. Dorm life can be quite loud and different from the comfort of home. With many students studying late and getting up early Quality Sleep can be an important factor to your child's success.

Sleep Eye Mask: Sounds kind of weird but both men and women have found an eye mask to be very beneficial. Some roommates set up their dorm room so their bed is shielded from light.

As I have stated in previous blogs the body will deteriorate with sleep cycles less than 4 hours. We must get a full 4 hours of uninterrupted sleep. Now most of us need much more than this but if a room mate or something is causing them to wake up several times in the middle of the night their health will suffer. Make sure you children know this too.

Essential oils

Tranquil Roll on : Young Living's Lavender oil has been researched to be more effective than the leading OTC sleep medicine. Tranquil Roll on has Lavender, Chamomile and Cedarwood which not only helps you get a restful night sleep but is great for calming the brain. Just roll on the feet, ears and neck before bed or just put on a pillow and sleep is yours.

Deep Relief Roll on: Studying long hours can not only make you tired but lead to neck pain and headaches. Just apply deep relief to the temples and back of the neck and the pain is gone in minutes but a wonderful cooling sensation is left. This blend of Young Living Essential oils contains Peppermint which has scientifically been found to improve concentration too. So while studying just add a smudge to a tissue and inhale.

Stress Away: College is very stressful. 18-30 hrs of classroom & lab time along with as much or even 2 times that in studying. Many college students also have to work part time to earn money for their school. Stress Stress Stress. But did you know the body has a simple system to relieve stress. It is called your Olfactory System or your sense of smell. Certain smells calm the body so it can better deal with stress. Young Living put together many of these oils into one blend called Stress Away. An easy to use roll on you can keep in your pocket for those stressful times. I actually advise inhaling it 7 different times throughout the day. Some wear it as cologne or perfume.

Not only can all these tools help with dealing with stress and getting better sleep but your nutrition also plays a big role in the health of the body.

Nutrition:

Carbozyme: College can be one of the poorest eating periods of our life. With access to pizza, cookies, cakes, soda, and ice cream 24/7 Carbohydrate binging is common. This can cause swings in blood sugar along with moodiness, depression and fatigue. I highly encourage most everyone take enzymes most of their life but this enzyme Carbozyme really helps digest those foods that are bad for us. Not only do our clients notice their blood sugar balance improved but many notice weight loss too. Carbozyme is a good choice for keeping off the Freshmen 15lbs.

NingXia Red: is another great choice for keeping college students healthy. Just one ounce has more Vitamin C then Oranges, more Beta Carotene than carrots, 12 minerals, 18 amino acids and lots of other good stuff all natural. This is a great alternative to those energy drinks like Monster, Red Bull, and 6 hr Energy drinks. NingXia Red not only tastes great but it comes in simple 1 oz packets that you can easily take daily in water or straight. For athletes and poor eaters 2-3 oz of day will not only improve athletic performance but also energy levels, and strengthen the immune systems. Athletic teams who all drank NingXia Red had a much less rate in colds and flu and noticeable improvement in performance.
 
 
So Here is Everything in your
Health Care Package

Ear Plugs,
Eye Masks,
Young Living's Tranquil Roll on  ,
Young Living's Deep Relief Roll on
Young Living's Stress Away Roll on,
 
and a Month's supply of Young Living's Carbozyme
and Young Living's NingXia Red 
 
The Health Care Package will cost about $150.
A Monthly Maintenance Care Package cost about $100 dollars.
This extra $1200 dollars a year investment in your child's health may have a great impact on their future.
 
For more information about the Health Care Package visit
www.thetotalwellnessdoc.com
or call our office at 1888-351-6850

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We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.

The Care and Feeding of your Family: Teenagers

The Care and Feeding of your Family:  Teenagers  

By Dr. Mary Starr Carter

 

Soccer, Football, Dance, Cheer leading, Marching Band, Tennis, Cross Country are just some of the Fall Sports starting up again. Children ages 12-18 play the majority of these sports in Middle School to High School. These teenage years are full of change and development. A very important time that may determine a person's future. Grades, athletic performance, learning a trade, attitude, behavior, social development all can be affected by WHAT YOUR CHILDREN EAT. 

 

Parents of kids in sports spend a lot of their time, money and energy making sure their children have the right sneakers, best gear, and that they can make it to all the practices and games. Why?   One parent told me "I want my kids to have the opportunities I didn't have as a kid". Yet she just dropped off a large pizza and soda to her two obese children. 

 

She was doing all she could do to keep up with all the practices and games. She made sure she was at every event, but neglected proper feeding of her teenage athletes. The result was two obese children.  What will their life be like 10 years from now or 20 years from now? Diabetes, High Blood Pressure, Rapid Aging, Infertility and the list goes on.  

 

This is a serious problem and although you may not have obese children you still could have nutritionally deficient kids.  And although this is just my personal opinion you may be unknowingly or knowingly setting your children up for a very difficult life. 

 

We must learn to feed our children properly especially our teenagers and teenage athletes. Why?   

 

Adolescents include growth spurts, body changes and hormone changes.  So many parents complain of their teenage daughters or sons becoming "monsters" or other words we won't use here when they went through puberty. Why are American children having significantly more physical and psychological issues compared to other countries, even some third world countries?  

 

My opinion is NUTRITION or lack of it is killing our children.  It may not happen today or tomorrow but within just a few years you can begin to see the effects of poor nutrition. 

 

Did you know that nutritional deficiencies and sugar imbalances can cause fits of rage?  Did you know that the teenage body requires certain amounts of protein, carbohydrates, and fats that you simply cannot get from typical processed, fast foods, packaged foods? 

 

Now add athleticism and you have even more requirements. My personal opinion is that schools are not just feeding our children poor nutrition and offering foods and soda that harm our kids but are we also starving our kids.  That's right STARVING…  Because, see, when a child goes to school they may have lunch at 10 am but not be allowed to eat again until 3pm or later if they are an athlete.  Added to that, the lack of nutrition in our school lunches and what do we have?   

 

Several studies have confirmed that children eating whole foods, vegetables, and healthy options during their school lunches and snacks scored higher in various tests, had fewer missed days of school and less behavioral problems. 

 

Many parents think their children's behavior problem is a psychological condition and put them on medications like Ritalin or an Anti-depressant.  YIKES, WAKE UP! It's what you are feeding your children or not feeding your children.  Even conditions like allergies and asthma can be improved by feeding your children correctly.  

 

So what can you do?   Well you will have to wait until Thursday to get part II of this newsletter….  don't miss Thursdays Blog. Parents pay me over $300 to give them the information you will be getting in Thursday's blog.  The results they get from those who apply it is amazing. 

 

"My child is getting A's and B's in school for the first time, since we changed to the Wellness program. "  

 

"My son scored 4 goals for the first time this week, and his coach says his performance has improved 100% this season." 

 

"Sarah's singing has dramatically improved since following your suggestions. Her voice is stronger and she rarely gets sick now." 

 

 

Here is a sneak Peak. 

 

#1) Make sure your children have proper hydration.  

Get rid of the soda in the house. Make it for special occasions once a week at the most.  

Get rid of the juices in the house including Orange Juice.  If you want to drink juice squeeze or juice your own.  You will get 50% more nutrition because FRESH IS BEST.  There are lots more nutrients and enzymes you don't get with other.

 

 

 

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You are weaker than you think you are and stronger than you think you are

You are weaker than you think you are and stronger than you think you are?

By Dr. Mary Starr Carter

Chronic Fatigue and Fibromyalgia sufferers can spend a lot of time in bed resting. Some may even spend 16-20 hrs a day resting.  The pain and fatigue can be unbearable to even get out of bed.  After just 4 hours of bed rest the body begins to decrease its muscle mass and fibers.  Bed Rest can contribute to the pain because lymph and toxins become stuck in the body and inflammation can increase. Bed rest for weeks at a time can contribute to muscle atrophy and weakness of the stabilizing core muscles which could lead to neck and back problems. 

 

Obese individuals can have a condition of muscle build up, tightness and weakness where certain muscles grow strong and big from the extra weight they carry and other muscles become weak.  They can end up with the same inflammatory pain conditions as a Fibromyalgia client. 

 

What about those who sit all day long?  They also can end up with a tight muscle weak muscle condition which can cause pain and problems. 

 

First why Exercise?   Well we addressed that in our Benefits of Exercise article. Here are a few more reasons from Dr. Murphree's Health Matters Newsletter

 

Exercise is a wonderful stress reducer and mood elevator. It helps relieve mild depression by generating endorphins, the body's natural pain killers that are associated with the "runner's high." Some researchers have said that exercise can raise levels of norepinephrine — a neurotransmitter associated with drive, ambition, energy, and happiness — by 200 percent.

Exercise also stimulates important neurotransmitters that help us combat insomnia, irritability, and fatigue, as well as food, alcohol, and tobacco cravings. Blood glucose and insulin levels are decreased, which is extremely beneficial for carbohydrate-intolerant individuals and type-2 diabetics. (Type-1 diabetics will need to adjust their insulin regimen to account for increased exercise.)

 

Exercise also decreases triglycerides (fats) in your blood and LDL – the bad form of cholesterol, while increasing HDL – the good form. High blood pressure is lowered, and the heart becomes stronger and more efficient, pumping more blood per beat. Exercise increases the diameter of coronary arteries, greatly reducing the risk of heart attack. Exercise can even reduce the risk of a second heart attack. Among heart attack survivors, those who choose not to exercise are over 20 times more likely to have another heart attack than those who exercise. 

 

 BUT EXERCISE ALONE IS NOT ENOUGH
YOU MUST STRENGTHEN ALL YOUR MUSCLES

 
Myself and many of my clients walk daily, ride a bike, even have strenuous jobs with physical labor, but to properly strengthen the body we must include Strength Training into our Recovery and Fitness Plan. 

 

 The number #1 reason for Strength Training Exercise is to protect your bones and muscles.  But there are plenty more reasons like increasing your immune system, decreasing your risk of injury, eliminating Type II diabetes, burning more calories, and Strength Training is even found more effective than drugs in fighting arthritis pain. 

 

 Where to Begin? 

 

 

 

 If you have any illness be sure to consult with your health care practitioner. But if you have Chronic Fatigue or Fibromyalgia you may also need to work in stages. 

 

Recovery Stage 

 

If you have a debilitating disabling condition I recommend the Chi Machine or a Vibrating machine for beginners.  These machines help do the work for you as you lay, sit or stand on them. They burn calories, and increase the lymphatic motion which can decrease pain.   

 

Beginner and Beyond Stage

 

 The next level would include an exercise program developed for Chronic Fatigue, Fibromyalgia, Obese, Arthritis and Pain clients called T-TAP exercise. This is an excellent short (some are 15 minutes)  simple exercise program that you can do in the comfort of your home.

 

T-TAP exercise helped me to regain my health and strength.  It got me strong enough to start to lift weights. Many individuals have regained their health with this system alone. Charlotte Siems released over 100 lbs and has kept it off for years. 

 

You may only be able to do part or some of the exercises at first but stick with it you will get stronger.  You can use a variety of T-TAP trainings for a Total Body strength and toning workout for your entire life.  But some of you will need more so when you are ready move on to the next stage. 

 

 Strength Training Stage

 

Strength Training can be accomplished in the gym or at home.

Many gyms are equipped with good Nautilus, Cybex and Free weight type of equipment that helps you develop your strength and muscle.  My personal opinion after working out at dozens of gyms is that one size fits all machines are not as effective as a program specifically tailored for you.  I recommend investing in a Personal Trainer for several sessions until you understand and can do a specific routine.  You may want to work with a Personal Trainer periodically throughout the year to help challenge you and get the quickest results.

 

MY FAVORITE

 

Chalene Extreme by Beach Body

 

Wow am I impressed with this Program.  She is an excellent trainer who has very carefully paid attention to all the little details a personal trainer would.  But the best part is that the cost is less than 2 sessions with a personal trainer and you can do it in the convenience of your home. You will feel the results in a week, and see the results in less than 3 weeks.

 

DON'T FORGET THE NUTRITION

 

To get strong again your body is going to need some specific carbohydrates and proteins.  NingXia Red is an excellent way to fuel your body during a strength training workout followed by Powermeal a meal replacement shake.   I recommend getting a liter of water with 2 oz of NingXia Red in it and drink this during your work out and finish it within 3 hours of your work out.  Also make sure you have had your Protein Shake within 20-30 minutes of finishing your workout.  Some people even enjoy a shake 30 minutes before and then again afterwards.  Listen to your body and give it what it needs. 

 

After a decade of  only doing aerobic exercises and then living 2 months in bed and on the couch I became extremely weak, fatigued, and hurting.  I did not have a foundation of strong muscle that would sustain me through that period of little movement.  But THANK YOU GOD…. for that awful experience because had I not gone through that I would have never known how WEAK I REALLY WAS.   Now just 3 weeks into it. I feel Stronger than EVER !  

 

Remember if you sit most of your day you are probably weaker than you think you are.  But give yourself just a few weeks of beginning Strength training and you will soon realize you are stronger than you thought you were too! 

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We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.

How to Live Healthy and Happy at 100 Years Old?

How to live healthy and happy at 100 years old?

By Dr. Mary Starr Carter

 

When you have a debilitating disease like Fibromyalgia or Chronic Fatigue syndrome you can only think about how you are going to make it through the day let alone another 10, 20, or 30 years. It can become very overwhelming but whether you are in okay health or have a serious illness there are some simple things we can do everyday.

 

Every morning at 5:30am you can find Gordon out walking. He walks 3-4 miles at an 18 min mile pace. He lives in and maintains his own home. Gordon eats small meals, lots of fruit, not a lot of red meat, and he takes nutritional supplements like NingXia Red. He enjoys his afternoon nap, reads about the latest in health and nutrition, still drives and enjoys traveling all over the country to see his family. Gordon says he plans on living healthy and happy another 10 years.

 

When you drive by Shirley's home you will know what her passion is gardening. She has some of the most beautiful small gardens in town. You can find outside caring for her garden most days. Her other passion is dancing and she can dance most 40 year olds pants off. She prepares her meals, eats small portions and lots of veggies. She is an excellent cook, drives her own car, crochets, reads lot of cookbooks and experiments in the kitchen every week.

  

Vita "Vitamin" as she is known to her family and friends is like a little energizer bunny even at 87 years old. She doesn't drink any coffee or tea, takes no medications but does take her nutrition juice NingXia Red every day. She walks so fast that her 30 year old grandchildren have a hard time keeping up. She reads 1-2 books a week. She is an excellent cook preparing food 5-6 days of the week and going out with friends 1-2 times a week.

 

So what can we learn about living to 100 years old from these 3 very healthy 90 year olds?

 

  1. Daily Exercise and Movement: the longest living cultures all over the world have this same factor in common Daily Physical Activity. Even if you have Fibromyalgia or Chronic Fatigue you can find ways to move your body even if it is just for circulation purposes. Machines like the Chi machine shake your body while you are lying down. You can burn calories, move lymph and toxins and help maintain your health all while taking a nap.
  1. Eat regularly and small portions.  Did you know that over eating not only makes you gain weight but it also congests the liver? A congested liver can lead to high cholesterol, blood pressure and host of other ailments.
  1. Read: Keep the mind active. Scientifically proven that the more you read, do thinking games like Sudoku and even math problems help maintain cognitive function longer.

* less TV. Watching TV for hours a day takes less mental energy than sleeping. In my opinion clients who watch a lot of TV have worse health than those that don't.

  1. Supplement your diet: After the age of 30 our digestive enzymes begin to reduce. By the time we are 80 digestions can be slow and hindered. I have worked with many geriatric clients that were malnourished even though they ate a "healthy diet". Nutrition like NingXia Red which is a liquid juice can make a significant improvement on a geriatric client's health. I have seen it even do remarkable things for young children including autistic and ADD children.
  1. Relax and Have fun: Having something to look forward to is important at any age but especially when you single, widowed, or have lost many of your friends as these three have. Planning a trip, a garden, having a job or person you help is very very important to your mental happiness. Your mental happiness is very important to your longevity.

So this is what I have learned from these three amazing individuals…… How to stay YOUNG and HAVE FUN!

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Dr. Mary Starr Carter has worked with thousands of clients from terminally ill and chronic diseases to those who are healthy and want vibrant health.  She has counseled hundreds of families who had given up hope find simple safe solutions. Known as the Total Wellness Doc she looks at all aspects of health to help someone overcome disease.    She specializes in difficult cases like Fibromyalgia,  Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes and Chronic pain.

 

We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.

Have you been mis-diagnosed?

Have you been mis-diagnosed?

By Dr. Mary Starr Carter

 

For the past 5 years at least a minimum of 2 times a week I consult with new clients who I soon learn were mis-diagnosed. Being misdiagnosed can lead to frustration, pain, and worse disability.

 Here are a few examples of clients who were misdiagnosed:

55 year old female with incontinence was told she needed bladder surgery. Surgery failed…. it wasn't until they realized her estrogen was so low that it was causing weakness in the bladder.


60 year old female spent 25 years on over 12 medications resulting in pain, constant respiratory issues, and a 50lb weight gain. The side effects of her medications were causing high blood pressure, weight gain, fatigue, respiratory issues, and blood sugar issues. After 1 year of recovery she is off all but 1 medication, has released 15lbs, has more energy and is way happier.


34 year old man with painful boils was misdiagnosed with skin issues and spent thousands on medications and specialists, including skin grafting surgery. After 1- $200 Wellness Coaching session the core problem leading to the skin issues was discovered.


But the most common mis-diagnosis I see in practice has to do with the Thyroid. More than 20 million Americans suffer from either an overactive or an underactive thyroid gland. As many as half the cases of thyroid disease in the United States go undiagnosed. So many times our clients have seen the doctor and the tests that the doctor orders come back with normal results. The clients have obvious symptoms of under active or overactive thyroid function but yet are mis-diagnosed as having levels in the normal range. Like Debbie who is obese not because she eats too much or doesn't exercise, she is obese because her thyroid, which regulates her metabolism, is not functioning properly.


There are many reasons why the thyroid will not function properly. On Tuesday August 23rd we will review some of those reasons. But first let's talk about how you could be misdiagnosed.


  1. The proper tests were not ordered

  2. The doctor is using older values of norm.

  3. They are looking for disease you are experiencing dysfunction

  4. The body is compensating.

  5. You are not in failure yet.

  6. Medication side effects

  7. Stress

  8. Everyone is not the same.

  9. Foods


All of these things could potentially be hiding the problem. With the thyroid, just like many other organs, dysfunction can go undetected before disease happens. Often times if we can catch a client in the dysfunctional stage total correction is possible. If we wait until it is diseased we may only be able to reduce symptoms by 30-60%.


If you are struggling with fatigue, weight gain, inability to release weight no matter what you do, depression, anxiety, always cold, lack of motivation, insomnia, allergies, or moodiness then you may want to join us Saturday July 30th at 12 noon EST when we review the Total Wellness an approach to identify and determine thyroid dysfunction and a simple protocol to get back on track with your TOTAL WELLNESS.

 

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Dr. Mary Starr Carter has worked with thousands of clients from terminally ill and chronic diseases to those who are healthy and want vibrant health.  She has counseled hundreds of families who had given up hope find simple safe solutions. Known as the Total Wellness Doc she looks at all aspects of health to help someone overcome disease.    She specializes in difficult cases like Fibromyalgia,  Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes and Chronic pain.

 

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Self Care for Health: Part II Junk in the Trunk

What is Junk in the Trunk? ….

When a person harbors bad feelings about past circumstances it can result in result in “Junk” in their body. Junk are behaviors, habits, emotional states, and even physiological processes that are not good. Junk in our Trunk can build up from past abuse, abandonment, adultery, deception, trauma, the loss of a loved one, a period of lack, loss of trust and the list goes on. Little or big, awful or horrific terrible things happen and each of us will process it differently. What do I mean by process? The body and brain will take an experience let's call it a seed and grow a tree of emotions, habits, behaviors and real physiological reactions. Here is an example; Kathy * when she was 2 or 3 year old getting potty trained was severely spanked for pooping her pants. This resulted in 45 years of constipation issues.

An Experience is a SEED

This experience (or seed) when she was 2 or 3 developed into a belief which developed into a bodily behavior. Don't believe me ? Stop now and think about an experience you had as a kid that has now resulting in a behavior of yours.

Kelly * was chased by her brothers with dead and living snakes when she was a kid. As a result she is petrified of snakes today. She can not even watch them on TV without freaking out. Her experiences resulted in a tree of Fear of snakes.

A SEED grows into a TREE

Another example from a client Sue * who at the age of two was mentally abandoned by her mother when her mother lost her baby at birth. From the age of 2 years to 3 and half years Sue had physical care but no love or affection from her mother. As a result she developed a series of bad behaviors, poor relationships, and mental disorders that were diagnosed as Post Traumatic Disorder, Bi-Polar, Detachment Disorder, Borderline Disorder and the list goes on all from this experience of abandonment.

YOU CAN GET BETTER

After 10 years of drug addiction, jail and loss of custody of her children Sue was transformed into a healthy happy woman.

Kelly although she doesn't like them can tolerate snakes now.

And Kathy well let's just say she doesn't have a problem going the bathroom any more.

Do you wonder how these woman and hundreds like them after decades of dysfunctional behaviors recovered?

PULLING OUT THE ROOTS

They didn't just identify the seeds they pulled out the roots. Think about it…. did you know a tree cut down but the roots left can eventually grow another tree.

Again my opinion only and you can disagree. I believe psychology looks at the experiences and seeds, identifies, manages behaviors, understands behaviors and symptoms but does not have a tool to PULL OUT THE ROOTS.

My practice and Wellness Coaching doesn't pull out roots either but we do refer to others that do. One seminar I refer clients to is called First Steps to Success. Over 100 clients I have sent through this system all have come out saying how much lighter and healthier they feel. Here are the stories of two clients who attended this seminar and got the roots out:

Andrea*  released over 30 lbs in just over 6 weeks after First Steps to Success.  It wasn't because she changed the way she ate or dieted she went through a Root pulling out exercise and released junk in her trunk. Her words, "My heart, shoulders, and chest feel so much lighter now."

Jessica * after years of suffering with Fibromyalgia, hospitalizing Migraines, and disability left one of these seminars completely PAIN FREE. It has been 6 months and she has not had one Fibromyalgia symptom.

There is a Biblical Proverb that says:

A PEACEFUL HEART MAKES A HEALTHY BODY

As a health practitioner I can tell you that this is true.  Your authentic self needs a peaceful heart, and a body that has released past hurts.

For some of you it may require a heart transplant, but believe me I have personally experienced and have seen hundreds of individuals from the worst possible circumstances and past be set free to be their Authentic Selves AND YOU CAN TOO!

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The mystery of Vitamin D



Do you remember Cod Liver oil?  The awful tasting stuff your mother or grandmother would make you take when you were sick or if you were lucky every day.  Well you might not think so then but today science has proven it was and is REALLY GOOD STUFF.  One of the reasons is the high amount of Vitamin D in it.


What is Vitamin D?

Vitamin D is a fat soluble vitamin found in very few foods with cod liver oil having the highest quantities.  It also can naturally be made by our bodies when the ultraviolet rays of the sun hit our skin. 


Why is it Important?

Not only is it important for the strength of our bones and calcium absorption but research  is finding that Vitamin D deficiency may be linked to certain autoimmune conditions such as multiple sclerosis, rheumatoid arthritis, diabetes, dementia and certain cancers.   WOW right.


Who is lacking Vitamin D ?

Although research varies it is estimated that more than 90 % of Americans have low levels of Vitamin D and children are becoming more and defieincent.  But here is a list of groups who are most at risk:

Breast Fed Infants,

Older Adults

People with limited sun exposure

People with dark skin

People with problems digesting fat

Obese people

And those who have had Gastric Bypass


Some Drugs prevent Vitamin D absorption


Certain Steroids like Prednisone

Both the weight-loss drug Xenical and Alli and the cholesterol-lowering drugs Questran, LoCholest, and Prevalite can reduce the absorption of vitamin D and other fat-soluble vitamins   And the anti-seizure medicine Dilantin.


How do I know my Vitamin D levels?

Many doctors are prescribing Vitamin D testing for patients, but you can also request it.  There are take home Vitamin D Deficiency test that will cost you about $65.  If you are into saving money you might want to consider just taking Vitamin D.

How do I get enough Vitamin D? 

 

Northerners don't expect the sun to the do the job from October to April. The UV rays we need are not strong enough so here are some of my recommendations.   Get tested so you have a base line to go from and then supplement with the following.  With low levels take 4000IUs of Liquid Vitamin D3  (I believe liquid is more absorbable) or a great source of Cod liver oil.  My recommendation for D3 is Carlson Labs liquid D3 drops 2000IUs.   Also if you struggle with Seasonal Affect Disorder also known as the winter blues  I recommend getting in the tanning bed for 5-30 minutes two times a week.  Be sure to check the facilitiy that the beds emitt UVB rays and follow their tanning guidelines.

 

My findings

In my practice several of my fibromyalgia clients had been  prescribed Vitamin D by their primary MDs.  The clients saw improvements in their energy levels and pain after just a month of supplementing.

The other thing I find so interesting is that there are no Multiple Sclerosis cases near the equator and I bet a lot less cases of Rhematoid, Lupus, Fibromyalgia etc…. in my Central NY town half of the over 60 year olds go to Florida for the winter.  Most of them say they feel so much better with less pain and more energy.  Could there be a link between Vitamin D and sunlight?  

The Total Wellness doctor thinks so! 


Conclusion

Research shows vitamin D gives you a much a better chance of preventing  illnesses such as: Heart Disease, Hypertension, Arthritis, Chronic Pain, Depression, Inflammatory Bowel Disease, Obesity, Premenstrual Syndrome, Muscular Weakness, Fibromyalgia, Crohns Disease, Multiple Sclerosis, Autoimmune Illness, and Cancer.  so,…..

Get your baseline Vitamin D tested start supplementing your diet or get some artificial sun or real sun depending where you live and what time of the year.  


For more information order the book

The Vitamin D cure by James e Dowd gives a simple 5 step plan to using Vitamin D, some simple exercise and diet changes to increase your energy, improve your mood, decrease pain and even lose weight.

 

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