Lessons and Blessings of Another Miscarriage

We all have highs and lows in our life.  It is inevitable and it is life.  The lows of life are sad, tragic, depressing, and awful, right?  What if the lows of your life were actually blessings in disguise or experiences to help you grow?

My 2011 Christmas Holiday was spent in one of those blessings and lessons. On December 25th 2011 while everyone else was celebrating Christmas, I was learning that I needed immediate surgery.

The Highs
It all started with our 5-day vacation to Austin, Texas.  I was 12 weeks pregnant and besides a lot of fatigue, nothing was abnormal. It was an awesome vacation and Saturday December 17th was one of the top 12 days of my life.  Starting with a morning walk to a delicious Mexican Diner, followed by a trip to Zilker Park and a ride on the Zilker train, then off to the Austin Nature Center.  Austin was beautiful, but it was the family time that made it so special.

Then that afternoon my husband and I set out on a 90 minute journey in the Hill Country of Texas where we saw hundreds of little deer and spent quality time talking.  We arrived at the beautiful Meyer Bed and Breakfast, got ready and headed to one of the most special and beautiful weddings I had ever been too.  A day of family, fun, friends, and romance who could ask for more?

The Lows
The next morning, I had breakfast with some of my favorite people including my spiritual mentors Dr. Jack and Lavonne Atnip. We laughed and joked and shared stories of how much our lives have been blessed by this couple.  But somewhere, something inside of me wasn’t feeling right.  I was really tired and thought maybe I just ate too much cake.  As I kissed Dr. Lavonne goodbye she said, “you take care of yourself and get some rest.”  A normal, typical thing that someone would say to a pregnant woman, but something inside of me just didn’t feel right.

On the drive back to Austin, this once beautiful terrain made me nauseous and irritable.  We arrived home and I laid down to rest for a while, but I just couldn’t get comfortable.  My back ached, my legs felt weird, and then all of sudden I felt something coming out of me.  I rushed to the bathroom to see bright red blood.   OH NO not again.  Am I having a miscarriage?

My first trip to the Emergency since a car accident in 1997, confirmed that the baby inside of me had no fetal heartbeat and was only the size of a 6-week fetus even though now I was about 13 weeks pregnant. They said you are having a miscarriage. Then they sent me home to mis-carry my baby.

My husband and I were heart broken as we had gone through this in June of 2011 as well.  Our baby Rachel would have been born January 2012 and now our baby Jesse who would have been born June 30th 2012 was going to heaven too.

But as I said before, I trusted God completely and knew He had His reasons. So although sad, I started to see the blessings in it.

The Blessings

God had given me one of the most amazing days of my life.

He gave our family time to be “on vacation” for 3 weeks.

He ordained 2 weeks with my aunt and uncle who cared and nurtured me, my husband and our 22 month old son Joshua in a wonderful and loving way.

God blessed us with 3 weeks of sun and springtime weather.

I got to go heal for a week at Jones Health Essentials in Florida where I got to spend quality time with our in-laws, nieces and nephews.

We had excellent health insurance for the first time in 15 years.

We were 5 minutes away from one of the best hospitals I had ever been to.

I spent several days in the bathroom bleeding and what I thought was miscarrying my baby.  Me, being a strong willed and natural Doctor, I sometimes think I know everything.  I thought I was fine… but I wasn’t. It’s not that I didn’t listen to my body which I am known to do… but I didn’t follow the doctor’s directions…  right away…  and had I waited much longer, I might have lost my life.

The Lessons and more Blessings:

My Ego for natural medicine was so big, I would brag all the time that I haven’t needed to take any drug or even an aspirin in 11 years.  A part of me thought “I will never need medical care”, “I will never need drugs.”  “essential oils can take care of everything”.

Well I sure learned my lesson.

A second emergency room visit on Christmas day showed that I would need immediate surgery or I would risk never having babies again or worse.

I would need anesthesia for this surgery and the thought of surgery and drugs scared me a lot at first.  I was very frightened and then like a blanket of snow, this PEACE fell over me like you can’t imagine.  (more on that in another blog)

 The Blessings and Lessons of St. David’s South Austin Medical Center  

For more than 13 years I have interned, taught and/or assisted clients at more than 17 hospitals all over the United States, including top ranked hospitals like Stanford.  Out of 17 hospitals, I have never seen the excellent care and outstanding service that St. David’s South Austin Medical Center had.  In all areas, they were excellent from registration to wheeling you out the door.

Have you ever been to an ER that was beautiful and clean, quick, comfortable, and had courteous staff?   St. David’s did.

But it was my experience with the Doctors and Nurses who blessed me the most.

Dr. Glen, the ER doc, was compassionate and kind.

Joyce, my hospital room nurse was attentive, listened, and even let me put some essential oils on to relax.

Nancy, my OR nurse, talked with me while I had a 20 minute wait before being wheeled into surgery.

I was blessed with one of the best anesthesiologist in the state who listened to me and respected my wishes.

But the most outstanding doctor I have had the privilege to work with was Dr. Hemkumar, a female OBGYN who performed the surgery.  She spent time talking with us, explaining the procedure, answering our questions.  She had been a doctor in India delivering hundreds of babies and then went back to school here in the US for medicine again.  She had 2 of her own children and really understood motherhood. She was compassionate, personable and really connected with her patients.  I was blessed by her skill and person and St. David’s is highly blessed to have her on staff.

The Lesson I Learned Through the Blessing of St David’s Hospital is that we all are needed.  Nature’s medicine as well as traditional medical intervention.  Had I not had my medical intervention on December 25th 2011 and the excellent care of St. David’s Hospital, I may not be here to talk to you now.

After spending a day and a half at St. David’s hospital, I checked out okay to go back to my aunt’s to rest and heal.  But before we left, a wonderful volunteer named Francesca came to wheel me downstairs.  She was an elderly woman who had lost her husband and daughter, yet was one of the most pleasant person you have ever met.  I realized then that life would be filled with highs and lows. But even with hurting hearts, we can choose happy.

Dr. Mary Starr Carter is known as the Total Wellness Doc. She has been training individuals about Natural Health Solutions for over 13 years. She is trained as a Chiropractor and has studied under the world’s foremost leaders in natural medicine. She is a mother and a wife and has created a balanced and total wellness life for herself and thousands of her clients using her simple wholistic approach to health and wellness. Her coaching, classes and ebooks help clients with Fibromyalgia, Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes, Weight problems, Thyroid and Chronic pain find resources and solutions to better health.

We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.

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How to Develop Self Mastery Total Wellness with Grapefruit Essential Oil

“Why is this happening to me?” You secretly dwell in self-pity and sadness alone. You heard all the positive talk about taking control, yet your battle seems to get harder. During winter months…your enemies get worst…they make you blue, grouchy and sometimes just plain bored.

Could it be you are suffering from chronic low-grade depression? These symptoms seem to hit women hard and can worsen during certain times of the month.

But don’t overlook the men in our lives. They might be suffering too. Their frustrations and moodiness may be due to low-grade depression and self-doubt.

Here is what Brent said:

About a month ago we started our annual ‘wellness program’ at work. I read in the Essential Oil Desk Reference about grapefruit oil helping with depression, and being a fat dissolving oil. I try to have a bottle of water each day that has 4 – 6 drops of grapefruit oil in it. I have been in a much better mood and with some quality time spent on the treadmill. I have had some weight loss as well. I really think the grapefruit oil has helped with keeping my ‘down days’ in check. Just remember to shake the bottle to keep it mixed. It tastes great!

Today, we want to give you 10 reasons why you should have grapefruit essential oil in your first aid kit:

#ONE: Overcome and control low-grade depression

Diffusing grapefruit oil and adding a few drops to your drinking water can help uplift your mind. It also energizers your body and gives mental alertness.

Fern R. from Canada has this to say about having more energy and overcoming low-grade depression with essential oils:

More energy is what the Young Living Essential oils and the Young Living supplements are giving me. I rub some under my feet morning and night; I put some behind my ears, on my wrists, on my temples, wherever aches and pains appear. I inhale them; I drink distilled water spiced with peppermint, clove, lemon, grapefruit or other oils. I put some drops in organic honey and eat them. Even if I’m 65 and not in the best of health (I have MS), I have more get-up-and-go than many people a lot younger. Why? Because I live surrounded by these therapeutic-grade essential oils! Thank you so much, Gary Young, for bringing these to the world!

#TWO: Weight release and digestion problems
Enough has been said about weight loss and many of us have the resolutions to lose some. Now remember, there are no quick fixes. It really is about changing our habits.

My testimony about grapefruit oil:
I use grapefruit when I have eaten high salt foods that make me puffy and bloated feeling in the morning.  I put 3-4 drops in 32 oz. of water and drink it in the AM. The grapefruit acts like a natural diuretic. I lose the extra water weight within 6-12 hours.

Kevin S. from Fulton NY used a few drops of grapefruit in his ice tea every day.  After 2 weeks he had lost 5 lbs. and the only difference in his life was the Grapefruit.

#THREE: Helps with skin problems
Grapefruit essential oil is known to help acne, psoriasis and oily skin.

Mary S. from Iowa:
I had a case of psoriasis on my elbow and it was getting quite bad & painful, and I finally tried grapefruit oil, and within two weeks it was remarkably better, and it was totally gone in a 4 weeks, and it has never returned.

Karla B. from Missouri:
I have recently started using grapefruit for my very oily skin and have had great results. I put it on each morning and night after I clean my face. I do not seem to be so oily.

#FOUR: Toenail growth and removal of mole
Can you imagine using grapefruit essential oil for toenail growth and removal of mole? Here are two testimonials that show results:

Pearl B. from North Carolina:

Upon reading that grapefruit oil is good for fungus on toenails, I decided to experiment by applying a few drops to my toenails. I was not sure if I had any fungus, but there were some whitish, flakey substances around the edge of the toenail where the cuticle grows. 

After about 2 months, one of my toenails was very loose. I pulled it off and found a new, pretty nail growing underneath the old. What a pleasant surprise.

Debbie P. from Texas:
I used a combination of grapefruit and frankincense on a mole that was bleeding. Within a couple of weeks, the mole was completely gone.

#FIVE: Unblocks blocked lymph glands, improves circulations and remove toxins
Grapefruit essential oil is known to help lymphatic decongestions. It removes bad toxic substances from our body. Lymphatic congestions are known to cause gout, renal problems, kidney problems and rheumatism.

Testimonial from Miranda P. from Georgia:
I got a recommendation from a chiropractor a few years ago about the use of grapefruit essential oil topically applied over areas where lymph glands were blocked. I would occasionally get painful spots, usually in my underarm, indicating blockage in the lymphatic vessels. 



One time of applying grapefruit essential oil neat on the sore spot has usually been all that was needed to open the vessel. Reminder: citrus oils do make your skin more sun sensitive!

Delores L. from Nevada used grapefruit oil:
I had slight warning of a stroke three years ago. When this happened to my mother I had some training on what to do. Working with a massage therapist I used Cypress on my legs and massaged my toes then used Grapefruit Oil, which is high in bioflanoids for strengthening. 
Three years later I have to watch my one leg going up stairs. But hey I’m 83 yrs. old still going strong and using my OILS.

#SIX: Overcome PMS and menstrual cramps
Some women literally have to lie in bed because of menstrual cramps. Yet some have to stay away from friends and family because of PMS. Here are two powerful testimonials.

Angie B. from Tennessee:
I started taking grapefruit oil internally for depression and to boost my metabolism. I have always struggled with cramps around my period, normally taking 4 Ibuprophen every 3 hours for 3 days. I always knew that wasn’t good for my body but it was the only thing that let me function. I never dreamed that one of the positives I would get would be that I no longer cramp. 



Since I have been using the oils for 4 months, I have not had to take one ibuprophen for cramps, in fact have only taken them at all twice during the 4 months and that was before I learned that peppermint oil helps with headaches. These oils never cease to amaze me.

Tiffany R. from Arkansas:
While using Citrus Fresh with Ledum neat and Grapefruit by capsule daily for weight loss I discovered a beneficial side effect. I no longer suffered PMS symptoms. My hips don’t loosen up, my abdomen and back don’t cramp, and I have no mood swings.



I was taking 10 drops of Grapefruit in a capsule a day for the first month, but I only take one capsule once a week now for maintenance. 

Petrochemicals cause Endocrine disruption and mutate our cellular structure. With daily attacks from petrochemicals, we need to fight back daily. Petrochemicals are stored in fat tissue, which then collects more petrochemicals, which then collects more fat. Read ‘Rub A Dub Dub, Are Toxins  In Your Tub’ for a list of products with petrochemicals to avoid.

#SEVEN: Boost immune system and helps relieve earache
Grapefruit essential oil has disinfectant properties and can help with our immune system and reduce pain like earache.

Loreen N. from Nevada used it for her grandchildren to relieve earaches:
The second my grandchildren complain about a pain it their ear(s) while they have a cold, I use the Young Living Grapefruit oil and the V-6 oil because it can have a burning sensation on their delicate skin. I just put a drop on my finger and rub it behind the ear and down their neck where I think the Eustachian tube is. Then in front of the ear but never inside the ear or canal. Immediately after that, I apply the V-6 oil to help prevent any burning sensation. If you don’t have the V-6, use almond or olive oil.



I would say 8 out of 10 times this has worked wonders for them and has taken away the earache. But always seek medical attention if the pain persists. I have also done this for myself when I felt like I was getting an earache and the pain went away completely. I have also used Citrus Fresh when I was out of the grapefruit oil.

June M. from Texas
Since I have been adding 4 drops of grapefruit oil to my (1 qt) drinking water each day I have not had – not one – common cold for over 3 years. It has to be the oil.

#EIGHT: Promotes energy
Grapefruit essential oil could increase your energy, clarity, concentration and focus.

Barb U. from Washington used it and it helped her focus. This is her testimonial:

I was at my office on a Sunday to catch up on necessary paperwork. I had to do it before Monday. But since it was December and a friend was having a mid-day open house for Christmas, I went there first. After a modestly spiked hot drink, a few cookies and a little fudge, I found it very hard to concentrate when I sat at my desk. My head was swimming and I felt very low-energy. 



So I took a bottle of grapefruit, held it under my nose and breathed it deeply for about 15 minutes. When I put it down, I was surprised to find that my mind felt completely clear and ready. I got my work done.

#NINE: Air refresher and repels flies
Grapefruit essential oil gives a refreshing aroma to our home and at the same time repels flies.

Joyce C. from Colorado discovered this:
Had a problem with flies buzzing around the food in the kitchen. Had a bottle of grapefruit handy and just opened it and set the bottle on the kitchen counter and the flies stayed away from the food.

#TEN: Refreshing drink without the calories and makes your salad tastier
By adding a few drops of grapefruit essential oil to our water will help those who dread drinking water to drink more.

Emma H. from Canada:
Do you have trouble drinking your quota of water each day? I added a drop of lemon and a drop of grapefruit to my water, and now I drink the appropriate amount of water and enjoy each mouthful. It also refreshes and renews me. 


Grapefruit essential oil comes from the rind of the plant and not the juice. So it is not the same as Grapefruit juice, which is contraindicated for some medications.

Grapefruit is also thermogenic, which means it literally eats fat. It is a natural diuretic so when you are feeling puffy and bloated, it is a great essential oil to use.

There is a lot of research about Grapefruit. Brigham Young University studied 74 different Young Living essential oils and found Grapefruit to be the most effective against inhibiting skin cancers.

If you do use Citrus oils on the skin – you should not expose the area to direct sun for 6 hours because the oil increases the sun’s rays and you can get tan or burned in that area.

Citrus oils like Grapefruit are inexpensive and they are great to diffuse especially in the winter because their smell has been found to be mood elevating. Please let us know how you use Grapefruit Essential Oil and send us your testimonials. Leave your comment below.

Dr. Mary Starr Carter is known as the Total Wellness Doc. She has been training individuals about Natural Health Solutions for over 13 years. She is trained as a Chiropractor and has studied under the world’s foremost leaders in natural medicine. She is a mother and a wife and has created a balanced and total wellness life for herself and thousands of her clients using her simple wholistic approach to health and wellness. Her coaching, classes and ebooks help clients with Fibromyalgia, Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes, Weight problems, Thyroid and Chronic pain find resources and solutions to better health.

We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.

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Physically and Emotionally Preparing and Healing Before and After a C-Section

January 19, 2012

Today in most hospitals in the United States, the maternity floor has from 25-45% C-section births with a large percentage of these planned. Although there is a lot of debate whether all these C-sections are really necessary or caused from medical intervention, we won’t discuss that now. Instead, we will discuss how to prepare for a Cesarean [...]

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Your Mindset May Determine Your Bank Account and Total Wellness

January 16, 2012

I was watching Extreme Home Makeover “The Gibbs family” when I was overtaken by emotion. Six kids raised by a mom who suffered 5 brain aneurysms 6 months after her husband passed away. The house was falling down with ceilings that were rotted, flies everywhere, and 2 of the kids had to sleep on the [...]

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10 Easy Ways with Peppermint Oil to Staying Alert, Achieve Better Health and Wellness

January 12, 2012

It is 3 pm and you are feeling sluggish and about to reach for that sugaring drink, coffee or snacks… Stop! You made a New Year’s resolution to start eating healthy and pursue total wellness. But you are yawning… you barely have your eyes open. Work is mounting and you wish you were in a [...]

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Happy Marriage and Total Wellness Through Relationship Counseling

January 9, 2012

I look around the room of this small church and thought to myself: Wow, there are a lot of happy couples here.  I was at a wedding of a good friend and I couldn’t help but laugh at all the couples in the room, who if you didn’t know any better you would think all [...]

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How to Raise Responsible Children with Clear Boundaries in an Entitlement Era

January 5, 2012

Can indulging too much and giving too much spoil our children? We know there is not a complete parenting manual out there in the marketplace today. Sometimes parents follow the steps in a parenting book and still find it frustrating to have failed in some areas. Me too. With modern conveniences, busy lifestyles, overscheduled children [...]

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Top 10 Tips to Keeping a Food and Nutritional Journal for Total Wellness

January 2, 2012

Top 10 Tips to Keeping a Food and Nutritional Journal for Total Wellness By Dr. Mary Starr Carter Now that the celebrations are over, lots of us have eaten quite a bit more than usual in special family meals with cookies, pudding and pies. While we put away our Christmas decorations…the last thing we may [...]

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An Exercise to Help You Review Your Year

December 29, 2011

This is the last week of the year and it is a great time to reflect on 2011. This exercise might take a few hours, a few days, or even an entire week but it will be worth it.   This exercise has helped me and many others move from just so so happy with our [...]

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How To Achieve Total Wellness Through Simplicity

December 19, 2011

How To Achieve Total Wellness Through Simplicity Sometimes it takes a catastrophic experience to make us realize what is important in life. Life is actually not so complicated if we see it with a different pair of eyes. I was raised in simplicity. Our home was just the usual table, chairs and some necessities. There [...]

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