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Do you have Vision for your life? I’m serious. What are your hopes and dreams for your future? If money didn’t matter what would you be doing with your life? Do you want to be happily passionately married in 5- 10-20 plus years, what about your children, finances? Where do you want to live, explore, vacation or see? How many people do you want to help, serve, change their lives?

Is it hard for you to give answers to these questions? Don’t feel bad. It was and still is for me. Recently I attended a First Steps to Success Conference where I had a radical awakening. I realized that although I go to work everyday, I help lots of people, and what I do matters I still had no vision for most areas of my life.

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Maybe you feel the same way.  Maybe because you are deep in debt, your job doesn’t pay great, you can’t dream outside your financial issues. Maybe you have little kids, are a single parent, or have a stressful job or life and you feel like it’s hard just getting through the day let alone do anything else.

I think maybe that is how I felt. Overwhelmed by the thought of dreaming bigger, doing more, or maybe I didn’t want to get my hopes up on something that may never happen.

Maybe you have allowed friends or family members to crush your dreams. “That’s nice but those things don’t happen for people like us”,  “You are too old to do that”,   “You’d have to win the lottery to make things like that happen”. Have you heard those kind of things before?

Me too. In fact I had a close family member say to me after I started my Young Living business, “That’s nice but those things really don’t work out for people, there’s no way you can earn that much.”

Well let’s just say I didn’t let her words stop me and I have proven them quite wrong.  How did I do it? It actually started with just a dream to be able to pay my monthly student loan bills with my Commission checks… then car payments, rent, living expenses, then replace my husband’s income and it has grown from there. But you also have to understand that when you are comfortable living the life you dreamed of having you may still be missing a VISION for your life.

Without VISION we cannot be our best selves. Without VISION we will not grow, we will let life happen to us versus living life by design. I am just sharing what I learned at a recent www.firststepstosuccess.com training. Here is another snippet:

“Where there is no vision there is no commitment. Where there is no commitment there is no focus. Where there is no focus there is no ownership or personal responsibility. Where there is no ownership there is no sacrifice or endurance. Where there is no sacrifice or endurance there is no true success.”

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I had a realization about what I was missing after that statement but it wasn’t until after a Spiritual Equipping session where I was anointed and prayed over that I had a HUGE deliverance. It was like scales had been lifted off of my eyes, heaviness off of my shoulders, and the wall came down. I was free again… sounds weird maybe, but I believe there is a Spiritual Enemy out there who does not want us to have Vision.  Who understands that without Vision there is no direction or focus and without Vision we will stay in our comfort zone.

Let’s get out of the rut. Let’s get out of the comfort zone. Let’s break free from something that is holding us back. Let’s get Vision back in our lives.

I will be praying for your deliverance too. I am also going to suggest that you do more than dream but learn to take action on your steps. I am using the Time Secrets Program to help me… you can check it out here.

God Bless your success,

Mary Starr Carter

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Where there is no vision there is no commitment.

Where there is no commitment there is no focus.

Where there is no focus there is no ownership or personal responsibility.

Where there is no ownership there is no sacrifice or endurance.

Where there is no sacrifice or endurance there is no true success.

Disclaimer: This information is not meant to diagnose, prescribe, treat or cure any illness or disease. It’s strictly for informational, educational, or entertainment purposes ONLY. The products I talk about are not meant to diagnose, prescribe, treat or cure any illness or disease. Any information I give you about them is for informational or entertainment purposes only. They have not been evaluated or approved by the FDA. Please seek the qualified health professional of your choice when making health decisions for yourself, your family and your pets.

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I live between two worlds: The world of Stay At Home Mom and the World of Working Mom. I am self employed working varying hours from 25-35 hours a week.  I have an amazing Home Helper, which I guess I should call Nanny but there is such guilt with that word.

When we choose to work and have someone else take care of our kids it’s hard on the mom especially. You pray for someone who will love your kids with their whole heart, that will have your value system, honor your parenting rules and just be a great person.

And then when you get it you struggle with watching your kids love someone that isn’t you. When your kids are little you may even have to hear them call their Sitter Mama… that’s hard. If you work too much then you will be exhausted when you get home and your kids will see you as the boring old mom and your daycare or Sitter as the fun one.

I’ve learned over the past 5 years it’s all a balance. I have had periods where I have had no help and periods where I had a ton of help. You learn to be a parent by default or design no matter what your circumstance. Default just lets life happen, design understands God’s intention for your work.

Whether you are a single parent, working parent, or stay at home parent you can be a parent by design. God has given you this responsibility of grooming your children, and caring for their needs. We cannot have guilt or compare ourselves to other moms who might stay at home. We are all different and we all have different strengths.

Keeping your family as a higher priority over your work doesn’t necessarily mean you are a stay at home mom. For working moms you can design your life so that you can be valuable in your work and valuable at home.

I think it starts with the journey of being our BEST SELF. God has given us a great PURPOSE… and that is Grooming our Children for Success. Raising strong, caring, independent, self disciplined children into young adults. In order to do this we must be our own strong independent, self disciplined, responsible, caring BEST SELVES. This may start with taking a strong look at our own stuff.

I was blessed this past weekend to get an AWAKENING of areas I needed to work on.  I attended www.firststepstosuccess.com. If you are looking for help in getting your life in order, being a better you and a better parent I highly encourage you to check it out.

Remember, being the best mom doesn’t equate to how many school events you went to, or how many gifts you gave your children. Being the best mom starts with being the best you so that you can love, honor and help to grow children who can be their best selves too.

God Bless you MOM.

I am rooting for you!

P.S. Here is a little comic relief with a Statistical WAKE UP CALL to How Important the Mom Is.

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Note to Family:

Mommy’s leaving for a little bit but don’t worry I have hired the following crew to take my place while I am gone:

Dietitian – to menu plan healthy and delicious meals
Cook – to prepare and cook all those meals
Nutritionist – to fill in all the gaps in your nutrition with the right supplements
Nurse – to assess and bandage when someone gets hurt, bit, bumped or bruised but you seem to get hurt daily these days
Kisser – to kiss all your Boo Boos
Essential oil expert – to make sure you have the right oils for all your ailments
Massage Therapist – to rub down your sore muscles and massage oils on your feet and back at night
Driver – to take you to your classes and fun events
Dish Doer – because at 2 and 5 your dish doing still has a lot to be desired
Laundry Helper – a must helper because we know Joshua you have this thing for clean pajamas
Cleaning Lady – so mommy doesn’t come home to a disaster
Grocery Shopper – with the amount of food this family eats this position is primary
Stylist – because we can’t have you going out with mismatched and backwards clothes
Singer – to sing your favorite songs to you
Bathroom Patrol – to make sure toilet seats don’t have pee on them, teeth get brushed and hands and faces get cleaned
Librarian – to pick the best books and read to you daily
Teacher – to continue your learning and school work
TV Monitor – to make sure we aren’t watching more TV than we should
Seamstress – to mend and sew your clothes… not that mommy does that now
Gardner – to have fresh foods daily

 

Disclaimer: This information is not meant to diagnose, prescribe, treat or cure any illness or disease. It’s strictly for informational, educational, or entertainment purposes ONLY. The products I talk about are not meant to diagnose, prescribe, treat or cure any illness or disease. Any information I give you about them is for informational or entertainment purposes only. They have not been evaluated or approved by the FDA. Please seek the qualified health professional of your choice when making health decisions for yourself, your family and your pets.

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