The Secret Weapon to Destroy WORRY
By Dr. Mary Starr Carter
I was raised by worry wart parents so of course I became a worry wart person. Worry would keep me up at night. It would have me running all out most days. It would keep me from ever having peace. Worry led me to a few mini meltdowns and even what I would call a nervous breakdown. But most of all worry stole many years of my life.
What did I worry about? Like most people money, debt, time, the safety of my loved ones, the outcome of a test, my own abilities and the list goes on.
The word worry means strangle. S-T-R-A-N-G-L-E Strangle or STRONGHOLD well worry definitely was strangling me. It was robbing me of my joy and peace and although I didn't know it at the time it was robbing the people in my life and the people I wouldn't meet because of this STRONGHOLD.
When did my WORRY let go of it's stronghold. It started in Fall of 2007 when I opened up my heart to God and started to let Him in. At first I noticed I was sleeping sounder at night. Nothing had changed in my exterior life I still had zero dollars in my bank account and a quarter of a million dollars in debt but yet I was sleeping sound. I wasn't running running running like a chicken with my head cut off. If I didn't finish oh well the world would not end.
I started really understanding and living Biblical principals particular Mathew 11:28-30 and Mathew 6:34. Before I was always depending on myself to accomplish everything, when I let go of worry and that STRONGHOLD FEAR I allowed God to come in direct and lead me in the right directions. My life became much more simple. I didn't feel like I was going around and around but never getting any results.
Now don't get me wrong I still let worry and fear creep in every now and then but then I remember there is no point in worrying in fact worry can be quite deadly.
Worry, Anxiety, and Stress are contributors to most of the 75-90% of all hospital visits. Worry is killing people. And don't think that your problems have to be bad for worry to get it's STRONGHOLD on you. You and I, both have met plenty of people who are financially secure by most standards yet worry the most. I remember visiting these clients who had gotten married two years previously and their home was extremely cluttered and unsafe.
Instead of getting a bigger home or storage for their now blended family they “stored” everything in their home. The husband was so worried about money he would not allow the wife to buy anything even with her own money. She desperately needed some nutrition supplements and essential oils but he couldn't see spending that money. Yet this young couple already had saved over $200,000 in the bank and had no debt. That STRONGHOLD eventually led to the demise of their marriage.
Worry can lead to addictions, hoarding, and worse, the end of your relationships and your health.
I want you to think about what you worry about. Do you worry what people will think of your messy house or the things you have to don't have in your home? Do you worry if your family will like your new wife? Do you worry if your children will stay healthy, get good grades, or become a good person?
Write down what you worry about.
Now I want you to look at that list and STOP WORRYING….. That might be impossible for many of you because worry is your habit it is in your programming.
But there are some SECRET WEAPONs to kill WORRY.
THANKSGIVING: See worry is a verb and action something that you consciously or unconsciously do. In order to re-write your programming you will need to also have another action — GRATITUDE – the action of Thanksgiving.
In her book 1000 Gifts a Dare to live fully right where you are by Ann Voskamp the reader is taught to be grateful for things that we mostly miss when we are in worry. If you struggle with worry or live in fear most days then I highly recommend this book and follow the instructions.
Accepting God's grace as your Provider. For anyone out there who has been on top of the world physically, emotionally and financially and then the next day lost it all you will attest to how fleeting things can be. When I learned not to worry about money (and am still learning) that is when God's grace opened up.
If you need more help on that open up the Bible and read the stories of the amazing grace poured out on a who lot of people who didn't deserve it.
Let go of Control: If you are a controlling person like I used to be it is very difficult to let GOD take over let alone another person. No one can do it as good as you. Well that may be true but we all have to let go to move forward in life. If you truly want to grow your business, raise amazing independent healthy minded children, develop into the best person you can be we have to let go and let GOD.
Don't do drugs do OILS…. I have met numerous people who end up medicated do to the worry and anxiety in their life. If you are on those meds please be aware you can not just come off them without some serious and sometimes fatal side effects. Please work with a qualified doctor who has a lot of experience in taking patients off those meds successfully.
But whether you are on medication or not and you have worry or stress you can use therapeutic Young Living essential oils like Stress Away, Valor, Peace and Calming, or Tranquil oils to help decompress and relax your brain and body. When you inhale an oil like Young Living essential oils that are pure and free from synthetics your brain immediately responds. These specific oils have been scientifically been proven to bring you into a state of relaxation.
Many Young Living users will inhale oils 10-20 times a day as well as wear them as perfume or cologne to protect their health and calm their mind.
Simplify: In my office one of the doors has a sign that says simplify. Having less, doing less, running less, can add a great deal of peace to your life.
This summer I started a Program that helped people get off the streets and into a learning and growing environment that mentored them to a better life. I probably used this program as a crutch after my miscarriage to fill a void. You caretakers know that too well…. take care of everyone else but ourselves.
Well I found over the months that this was bringing more and more stress to me and my family. I came to the conclusion that I needed to let go of this program in order to put myself and my family first. I did and it was like a huge weight off me. I also reclaimed some things I lost due to that program and feel a much greater peace and simplicity in my life.
Lastly I just want to share with you that I am still no expert on Not Worrying, but since I have incorporated the above recommendations into my life I am a whole lot happier and have a great deal of peace in my life. I wish this same Peace for you.
God Bless you, your family and your life to Total Wellness.
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Dr. Mary Starr Carter is known as the Total Wellness Doc. She has been training individuals about Natural Health Solutions for over 13 years. She is trained as a Chiropractor and has studied under the world’s foremost leaders in natural medicine. She is a mother and a wife and has created a balanced and total wellness life for herself and thousands of her clients using her simple wholistic approach to health and wellness. Her coaching, classes and ebooks help clients with Fibromyalgia, Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes, Weight problems, Thyroid and Chronic pain find resources and solutions to better health.
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