Homeschooling is Hard !


I made it through another week of Homeschooling. This was one of the highlights from the week.  It may seem like nothing to you but to me it’s everything. See homeschooling has to be one of the hardest jobs I have taken on. I know I am not that good at it yet. But I also know that I know that I know I need to do this. I need to be doing the HARD THINGS.  I know that I am the best teacher for my children at this moment in time.  And I know that I know that I know God wants me in this place not just for my kids but to refine me too.

I actually have been teaching for more than 20 years. Starting with my American Red Cross days teaching CPR and Babysitting classes, to Teaching Assistant and then into my Essential oils Class Teaching Days.  I estimate I have taught more than 5000 students and hundreds if not a thousand classes.   So it’s hard when I find myself in a place of teaching and not being so good at it.  

I think I may have thought way way early on that this would be a breeze, but it’s not. In fact most days I need my NingXia Nitro and Stress Away to get through the day.  And I am only officially schooling less than 3 hours a day LOL it can’t even be considered a full time job. But everyday that I do it and every week it gets better with little glimmer’s of hope like the video above.  (He’s Reading He’s really reading… kind of)  


My little man 2012

See my oldest son is well ACTIVE.  He is brilliant and caring and sensitive like his dad but he can not sit still for more than 15 minutes or so and that’s a stretch. So traditional schooling was pretty much out. In fact he got kicked out of nursery school when he was 3. They couldn’t deal with a kid who couldn’t sit for 10 minutes to do a craft and didn’t know how to use scissors.  But my dad who was a middle and high school teacher for 35 plus years always said he felt boys matured later than girls and thought boys would benefit to start school a year later.  So I listened to him and let my son start schooling a little later and grow and develop at his own pace.  

I have also learned that our child’s development is much more than what we teach them but also what we feed them.  Sugar, Processed foods, gluten, and milk products all make Joshua’s attention span and learning more challenging.  I notice he is more emotional, has more difficulty in calming down for sleep, and his communication struggles too.  

Recently I was introduced to this book :  


If you know anyone who has children with Asthma, Allergies, is labeled on the Autism spectrum or Asperger’s they have to read this book.  It is full of helpful and effective information. And real life stories that will make you rejoice in hope and cry from the tragedies.  

I pretty much know that if I hadn’t been a Chiropractor and then a Wellness Consultant that my life and son’s life would look a lot different now. My son would have most likely gone to school and have had a label by 5 or 6 years old. Don’t get me wrong I am not against getting help or testing but I am against putting a label on a kid or adult so that they grow up thinking that they can not change and this is how and who they are.

In years of practice I have seen some amazing things done with just diet changes, nutritional supplements, essential oils and Chiropractic !   I have seen a 3 year old non-verbal not crawling begin to walk and talk within 6 weeks of nutritional changes made.  I have seen autistic become more social and communicative, I have seen asthma healed, I have seen allergies eliminated.   I had also seen God’s miraculous healing without any intervention. (Well I guess it’s all God’s healing).  So I never doubt that change can happen and healing can occur. And when I find more resources and tools to help make these changes I want to share them with you.   

Here is something else you may want to look into if you have an easily distractible child, Brain Training!  Here is the Podcast of    Do you Need to Train your Brain ?   I started using some of these ideas this week and I am already starting to see improvement.  

I will continue to learn and grow as a homeschooler and mother who is grooming, feeding, growing kids.  I will continue to help educate parents about the dangers of labeling and drugging.

Here is Larry’s story from Dr Bock’s book. Larry and his wife were bullied into drugging their son when he was 7 years old.  Their son was a good kid at home but struggled in school and was labeled with ADHD.  The teachers threatened if they didn’t get their son on medication for ADHD than they were be in Neglect, Child Services would be called and they could lose both of their children.  Over the years their son’s low dosage of Ritalin increased to the highest dosage 4 times a day.  At 14 their son was a star baseball player and good kid. One day while he was playing on his skateboard he had a heart attack and died.  The autopsy showed direct damage to his heart from the Ritalin and the cause of his death.   WHAT!!!!!

I read that story and thought of the thousands of kids on this drug or other stimulants.  It’s my opinion that we set these kids up for becoming addicted to other stimulants in their teens and early adulthood. Things like  Energy drinks or worse which all of this is setting them up for early health problems or worse.

You can agree or disagree with me in the comments.  And I get that sometimes families wouldn’t survive unless they “calmed down” their kids with these drugs.  I am just saying maybe we can do other things too or instead.  Here is the information again to get the book I talked about and see for yourself.

God Bless,

I will pray for your family’s success;

Mary Starr Carter

The Total Wellness Doc and Mom

  • Homeschooling is hard but so rewarding. This is year 3 and I still don’t have a handle on it!

    I plan on getting that book for my sister on law. My poor niece has horrible asthma.

    • Dr Mary Starr

      Awesome Paula!

  • Lisa Ann Homic

    Ever since the start of the industrial age, adults and children’s lives have been forever changed with the current standard work day, school day. They are so unhealthy. But we just go through the motions as if we can’t break the mold and just go along to get along.

    • Dr Mary Starr

      I know when I watch a movie from the “olden days” I dream of a simpler life… but we are here.

  • Rebecca Davis

    Homeschooling is so difficult…because dealing with my own character flaws and patience deficits is so hard! You are doing amazing things for Joshua, dedicating this time and effort to him. Keep up the good work, Mama!

    • Dr Mary Starr

      Thank you Rebecca!

  • dj2me

    Labels are very difficult but it is really good when parents know there could be reasons their children may not reach certain milestones and address it in healthy ways. The spectrum is just a gauge and not a lock and parents like you will break any barriers once placed on children who learn in different ways. I was considered a trouble child because I had too much energy for classrooms yet my mind was very sharp and got lost in the rules. I even started believing I was not a good learner and it turned out to be just the opposite. I am sure sugar was the main culprit for me but as my mom always said, I came out flying and seldom slowed down.This blog can be very helpful to moms who know there is more they can do to help their children and it;s not just about a book. Thanks Mary.

    • Dr Mary Starr

      : )

  • Lori Bruton

    I homeschooled my sons for a few years once I learned that was an option. Being a parent (whether you homeschool or not) is challenging. It was easy for friends and family who did not have kids of their own tell me I should be able to pack up my kids and take them to wherever or run a business or whatever else just because other Moms they knew were doing it. Everyone is different and has a different pace and learning style and sometimes special needs and health challenges. Kudos to you for taking on this journey and knowing alternative, natural healthy tools for you and your family. It will be worth it in the end. I will always cherish the time I did homeschool despite a lot of judgment and criticism.

    • Dr Mary Starr

      Thanks Lori!