At 36 years old I have spent many of those years striving in my life. The definition of strife is to struggle or fight forcibly for something. My strife began when I was 9 years old practicing piano 3 plus hours a day to get ready for this competition or this Program. Then I was always struggling to achieve in school and work. I remember going to Chiropractic College where you were in school 40 plus hours, studying another 30 plus hours but yet I accepted a part time position at the American Red Cross as their Interim Health and Safety Director. What was I thinking?
Strife fell over into my career, marriage and relationships. I really thought you had to do all this to have success in life.
It wasn't fun, my adrenaline (the stress hormone) was running all the time. This caused weight gain, allergies, exhaustion and just about a nervous breakdown. Luckily I was in the natural health field and could keep myself from total body system failure. But for many years no matter how much I worked and struggled I was financially and relationally going down hill.
In 2007 right about when I was ready to give it all up I found something that helped me recover, get into balance, and learn to be successful without strife. Now I still fall out of balance some of the time, but my health, relationships, marriage, career, finances, and life is soooo much better. I am a extremely blessed woman from some simple things I found in 2007. I hope these simple secrets can bless you too.
Dr. Mary Starr Carter
Self Care Part I: Strife and Worry lead to disease
I believe many women are striving in their lives because of pressure they put on themselves to be as good as, or to do the most, or to be the best.
It is this striving that many times leads to dis-ease…. In fact this kind of stress has been scientifically proven to result in heart disease, cancer, and a variety of other illnesses. And my personal opinion is that some of the Fibromyalgia cases I see are due to years of strife and struggle.
Worry is in the same category. Women especially worry about their children, bosses, finances, and the list goes on. We even forward worry about things that haven't even happened yet.
Now I don't live with your problems and life so to tell you to STOP WORRYING may seem like I am being a jerk. But I can tell you what the best success book written says about worry.
Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?
Worry weighs a person down;
Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
So the bible may not be your thing but here is an example of a client who spent years in dis-ease until she got it.
Strife and Worry lead to dis-ease
Lynn * shared with me just recently a revelation she had after battling painful Shingles on and off for the past several years. She found that during periods of high stress and worry she would break out in painful and obvious shingles on her face and neck.
She had been praying and pouring her heart out to God and realized it wasn't the stress that caused the Shingles but the stress and false burden she put on herself. She kept striving to do as much as she could do with her time and talents. She spent years seeking God looking for what He wanted her to do.
When the revelation came that He (God) had planted in her heart the desire to be a wife and home-maker and that is really all she wanted to do. That she didn't have to keep the cleanest house, to constantly be working and doing, she realized that just being was okay with her and God.
THE DESIRE REVEALS THE DESIGN
When you can connect to your passions, desires and what truly makes you happy many times you can find your design. Some stay at home wives like Lynn feel like they should get a part time job or do something else to "stay busy". When Lynn realized what her true God given Design was ….she became much happier and healthier woman.
I am here to tell you it is okay to be what you desire to be. If your parents and others have put you down, or lead you down a path you don't want to be think about a different path. A path that makes your heart sing!
What are your desires and passions? What makes you happy?
Sometimes it can be challenging to find out what our desires and passions are because their is so much junk in the way.
Part II of Self Care for Health we will share secrets to get the Junk out of the Trunk and find your authentic self.
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