How I Got Pregnant After a Miscarriage

How I got Pregnant after a Miscarriage
By Dr. Mary Starr Carter  

I have heard many clients say that their sickness, health challenge or even cancer was the best thing that ever happened to them.  For me it was my miscarriage.  It woke me up to the years that I neglected some fundamental things in my health.  Years that I would say starting next month I will get in shape, tomorrow I will go to the gym.  I just couldn’t get into a consistent rhythm.

My miscarriage gave me a desire to get my body fit again.  To take off years of build up I call it.  And when I started walking down that path to Total Wellness that’s when I got pregnant again.

Here is what I did to get my body back to Health and pregnant again.    

My Immune System
About several days after the miscarriage my body went into full-blown allergic state.  I was having some really severe allergies for weeks afterwards.  I had to pull out the big guns of what I knew of nutritional wellness, eating and drinking water like never before.  I know it was foundational for my recovery.  I talk more about what I did specifically for my allergies in my Ebook Natural Remedies for Allergies located at The Total Wellness Library.

There are many theories that Fibromyalgia starts from a traumatic event in a person’s life.  Fibromyalgia is usually a breakdown of the immune system along with debilitating pain.  I believe had I not recovered myself properly from my miscarriage I could have ended up with Fibromyalgia symptoms down the road.

Nutrition and Food:
The second week after my miscarriage I got out the old juicer and started juicing everything from cherries to veggies and even some special liver support veggie blends.  I know this started to re-fortify and heal my body.  I was also on a juice fast the week after I conceived so this baby started with some mega doses of natural vitamins and minerals.

I also started to eat very regularly having a shake within an hour of waking up and another healthy breakfast a few hours later. A light lunch and sensible dinner and if I needed it some healthy snacks or another shake throughout the day.  I wasn’t so concerned with losing weight as of getting my blood sugar and body back in balance.

I didn’t rest enough during my first pregnancy with my son Joshua and that led to some poor health physically and emotionally for almost a year.  After my miscarriage I allowed my body to rest every day. Sleeping until I woke up, and taking a nap most days.

When I found out I was pregnant I also let myself rest extra. My body was tired from the changes and growing a baby. This time I am doing my best to listen to it and rest when I feel I need it.  This also means I have slowed my pace some, got extremely focused in what I do, and I am not taking on anything new.

So many times we just go on with life when we get a cold, have a set back or even have a miscarriage. Resting and allowing the body to recover is important.

But with that said too much rest can be harmful.  With my first son I was sitting or lying down a lot in the last trimester.  It was winter I could work from home on the computer but all that sedentary living I lost a lot of muscle, which was replaced with fat.

Because I spent over a month on mostly bed rest before my miscarriage I lost a lot more strength.  I couldn’t even carry my 25lb son up and down the stairs afterwards.  That loss of strength not only weakened me physically but emotionally as well.  You can fall into a very dark place where you just don’t have the strength to get going to do anything.

Exercise and Building Strength:
If I could say the one thing that was life changing after my miscarriage was the Strength building exercises I did.  Chalene Extreme it is called and it kicked my butt back into shape.  In 30 days I lost over 20 % body fat.  It pushed me farther than I had pushed myself in years.  I was stronger than I had ever been and the endorphins really knocked me out of a depression.

I let it go for a while after finding out I was pregnant but found myself losing muscle again. So I am absolutely going to make Strength Training part of this pregnancy no excuses.

Sunshine  & Heat Therapy:
Since it was the summer I got to go outside and take my naps in the sun while getting some much needed vitamin D.  In September I got to do some consistent heat therapy sessions with the Biomat and Infrared Sauna.  I know this was not only cleansing to my body but also strengthening.

Counseling, Vacations and Family Support:
I think for my husband and I it was about two weeks before it really hit us what we had lost.  Rachel we named our child after reading the book “Heaven is Real” by Todd Burpo .   Ironically I finished that book the day before Rachel our baby went back to see Jesus.

My counselor Dr. Lavonne Atnip was very helpful, in helping me deal with my emotions, deal with other people sharing their stories (which at one point didn’t really make me feel any better), help me help my husband, and just how to move forward.  Counseling made things better for sure.

My family and friends came forward to help me with making me my favorite meals, (like Grandma Vita’s chicken cutlets or Aunt Shirley Turkey Breast); they took care of my son, and let me have some alone time.  My colleagues were very generous by taking some of my Teleclasses, sending me cards and gifts and just being encouraging.

We got to go on vacation to my mother in laws “Jones Health Essentials” where it is just a wonderful time of family, garden fresh foods, and enjoying the healing modalities there.  Ironically I got pregnant right after that vacation.   So I would tell any women when you are ready to conceive again go on a vacation. It will do your body good!

Because of my faith I never blamed God or was angry with Him.  I think I questioned Him a few times but I know He ordained that experience for me.  I learned so much; I strengthened my health, my relationship with my husband and my son.

I think strong faith has carried me through this with a peace that passes all understanding.  I wish that same peace that I found through Jesus Christ for all those who suffer, because it will bring you healing.

Thank you for reading my story, for sharing this experience with me and for sharing my story with those who have gone through miscarriage, are struggling to get pregnant or are just thinking about getting pregnant. Please comment below or send me an email.

Dr. Mary Starr Carter is known as the Total Wellness Doc. She has been training individuals about Natural Health Solutions for over 13 years. She is trained as a Chiropractor and has studied under the world’s foremost leaders in natural medicine. She is a mother and a wife and has created a balanced and total wellness life for herself and thousands of her clients using her simple wholistic approach to health and wellness. Her coaching, classes and ebooks help clients with Fibromyalgia, Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes, Weight problems, Thyroid and Chronic pain find resources and solutions to better health.

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  • Verda

    Wow, so much good information in this article for wellness.  The one that stands out for me is the ( exercise and strength ) since I’m 62 and look at my sagging body/muscles, I know I need to get back into a routine.   I am responsible for caring and maintaining my body and I really have no excuse……………exercise is free. 

  • Congratulations, Mary! Send my love to your hubby and Joshua too 🙂 
    I’m bookmarking this article for the next time I can help a friend or relative who’s trying to conceive.  Sending wonderful thoughts and prayers your way!

  • Dj2me55

    Being one of the many women who have suffered miscarriages, this article was very informative as to how I might have helped myself recover, physically.So often we just want to get past the pain of loss we shelve our feelings and just get back into our routines, never giving our body time to heal.

  • Congratulations! I am so happy for you and your family. Thank you for writing such a great article. Thank you for sharing your experience. Having experienced a miscarriage, I understand how painfully, emotionally and spiritually draining it can be. Having fantastic people to support you does help a lot. It can help you not go into that ‘dark’ place and find comfort there. Again thank you for sharing and educating.

  • Lbruton68

    I know about “the dark place”.  It’s hard to find a way out.  I am glad you did and are thriving besides.  Congratulations on the new baby.  May you have a healthy pregnancy and easy delivery.  Many blessings to you and your family.

  • Annettelanders

    Congratulations Carter Family!!

  • Sue

    What a great article, Mary… your story is straight from your heart and will be helping so many others….Best wishes to you and your family in this new pregnancy… Thanks for all you do to educate us!

  • Ellen

    I, too, Mary have experienced a miscarraige and was not fortunate to have had an article as informative as this one will be to many other in this situation.  You are a Wonderful source of much needed information and thanks so much sharing with all of us:)

  • Nina

    Thank you for sharing this. I have no idea where to start recovering from miscarriage at 8 weeks. It just happened 3 days ago. It is devastating to have a blessing taken away from us and I agree with your thoughts about questioning God. Initially, my faith waivered and I am not going to deny that I wanted to rebel against Him. But in the end, He is still my source of strength, He will make things possible. He is the lifegiver and only He can grant us another blessing. I am keeping the faith and hoping I can recover and get pregnant again just like you.

    • Dr Mary Starr


      I am so sorry for your loss, I pray for your heart and will be praying for your recovery and future blessing. God Bless you!